Question...Does it bother you when you get attention from the opposite sex?

agape1cor813

It depends.

A random act of kindness, like the vending machine guy giving you a drink without having you pay for it, is one thing.

However, I tend to avoid situations where I could get some kind of male attention that may not be so innocent. I suppose places like bars would count, but I rarely go places like that anyway. I think most of my socializing in that regard is done with DH, so it's a bit of a moot point.

DramaGeek

I have friends who flirt with me in front of H.  It's all in fun and just how our relationship is.  No harm, no foul.

On the other hand, if some guy is really leering or making creepy/inappropriate comments, then yes, it bothers me.  But it would bother me if I were single, too.  The situation you described would only hit my radar as a nice guy.

BMcLeodTeam

It doesn't bother me, and I have been cheated on before. The way I view it is I (or FI) choose how to react to the situation. If someone is going to stay faithful, then it doesn't matter how many people flirt with them, they'll be nice and polite, refuse to let anything happen and remain faithful.

mattycam

I guess it depends what kind of attention is being given to me. For example, a compliment or what that guy did for you at the vending machine is no big deal.  Anything outside of that I may view as inappropriate.

peachykeen26

I'm just getting in on this and haven't read all the comments, so I apologize ahead of time.
It doesn't bother me when the opposite sex pays attention to me. As long as the intent is innocent. If a man comes after me and tries to physically pursue me, then I get uncomfortable. Especially now that I'm married.
But innocent flirting doesn't bother me.
H is so oblivious to other women flirting with him, he wouldn't know who bought him a drink anyway. Which is good. And, like I've always told him. As long as he knows where his bed is, I trust him. But if he ever finds the bed of another woman.... Well, we would have some issues to work out. Obviously. Same goes for me. As long as I know where my bed is, I'm safe. I would  expect him to walk away from me if I ever committed adultery against him, though I think he would stay and fight for our family.

I would just pray for strength in your marriage to maintain level headed and pure to your husband or FI.