A curious question - What are/were your university's lifestyle rules?

kellya01

Emily - I would have LOVED to go to Liberty.  Sadly, though, it would be out of state for me and Chapel Hill was closer to home, AND I fell in love with the music department.  Since that was my undergraduate major (music performance and music education double) and intended to go straight into the Master of Arts in Teaching program through UNC's school of ed, I knew where I needed to go.  Amazingly enough, I feel like I was put in the right place, even though there weren't rules like Liberty.  I was free to enforce my own set of rules on myself as were others.  I think that the freedom of choice can be good, but I also agree with the need for rules like what LU has with the way so many kids have grown up in today's culture.  

iamjoesgurl

I went to Houghton College and it is pretty conservative but not quite as much as Liberty even.  There was no alcohol allowed on campus (Houghton is even a dry town).  Dancing was also not allowed.  The dorms are not co-ed but visitation was allowed.  There were some floors where guys were allowed anytime (and vice versa for girls on guys' floors).  Hand holding, kissing and other PDA was allowed, but you could not spend the night in a room of someone of the opposite sex.  

I think dancing off campus is allowed now.  (I graduated a long time ago!)

I'm very thankful for the rules that we had.  Although I was on my own, it was my first time living outside my parents' home and I needed some rules to follow.  College was the time in my life of transition between adolescence and adulthood.  Without having some rules, I'm afraid I would have done things that I would have regretted.

And about the BYU student, when you know the rules and you willfully break them, you have to be willing to deal with the consequences.

kellya01

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[QUOTE]...Although I was on my own, it was my first time living outside my parents' home and I needed some rules to follow.  College was the time in my life of transition between adolescence and adulthood.  <strong>Without having some rules, I'm afraid I would have done things that I would have regretted.</strong> And about the BYU student, <strong>when you know the rules and you willfully break them, you have to be willing to deal with the consequences.</strong>
Posted by iamjoesgurl[/QUOTE]

<div>Totally agreed!!!  </div><div>
</div><div>1 - I KNOW many college students who did things that ultimately they regretted doing while at my school.  They are grateful that it didn't have a lasting effect on their life into now (most of them), but they said after they messed up that they wish they had known NOT to do something especially since most college students are coming from living with mom and dad and experience that level of freedom for the first time.  </div><div>
</div><div>2 - I think a lot of kids nowadays don't think consequences apply to them.  I'm glad BYU enforced the policy, which that student agreed to follow when he enrolled in their university.  Whether or not I agree with it isn't really the point I guess, but knowing that he agreed to that set of rules and knowingly broke them, he got what was coming, in a way.  Mercy is good too, but the consequences for breaking rules can't be tossed out the window.  He is hopefully learning a very important lesson!  </div>

Christine&Joshua

I attend a private school in NJ called Rider University.

Yeah, I wish we had some of those rules. Everything is a free-for-all. Ambulance there almost every weekend for underaged drinking. So many young unwed mothers walking around. No dress code. No boy vs. girl hours. Nada. Just kids running around trying to control themselves.

My best friend/MOH goes to BYU and her roommate was asked to leave for having premarital sex. But I'm not sure you guys know (you probably do) but the students sign an honor code saying they won't do those things, and if they do they can be expelled. It's not like they had no idea this was coming.