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Wedding Woes
zsazsa-stl
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Vent
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I am really sick and tired of co-workers using their children as excuses.
"I can't finish this now, I have to go pick up my kid."
"My daughter is sick, so I don't know when I'll get back to you on that."
"Sorry! I can't attend any meetings before 9am or after 3 because my son's daycare is 45 minutes away from here."
"Mylekyah has a dance recital on Friday so I'll be off the rest of the week."
I know that kids trump jobs, but if you are leaving me high and dry don't blame it on your kid. If you have obligations at home that don't allow you to work a minute of overtime (or in many circumstances even a full day - see the daycare in another city excuse lady) you had better be managing every damn minute that you are work to the fullest. And I know you aren't doing that because you call me to ask if if the HR lady is mad at you and when I'm at your office I see you having hour long discussions about the new breading on the chicken strips in the cafeteria. Unless I can tell my boss that my sh!t didn't get done because of YOUR kid, don't give me that crap.
"I can't finish this now, I have to go pick up my kid."
"My daughter is sick, so I don't know when I'll get back to you on that."
"Sorry! I can't attend any meetings before 9am or after 3 because my son's daycare is 45 minutes away from here."
"Mylekyah has a dance recital on Friday so I'll be off the rest of the week."
I know that kids trump jobs, but if you are leaving me high and dry don't blame it on your kid. If you have obligations at home that don't allow you to work a minute of overtime (or in many circumstances even a full day - see the daycare in another city excuse lady) you had better be managing every damn minute that you are work to the fullest. And I know you aren't doing that because you call me to ask if if the HR lady is mad at you and when I'm at your office I see you having hour long discussions about the new breading on the chicken strips in the cafeteria. Unless I can tell my boss that my sh!t didn't get done because of YOUR kid, don't give me that crap.
I just a friendly gal looking for options.
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Re: Vent
i try hard not to abuse it, and get DK to switch off working from home with me if Wolverine has to stay home sick from daycare.
[QUOTE]I had a co-worker who asked everyone above her in seniority to take a later schedule when we bid because she'd have to change daycare if we didn't No one would (or in some cases, could) commit. She went and complained to our manager and magically had a schedule that worked for her. Our manager said it was because she had a 'different job definition' and was going to be pulled from the bid. *coughbullshitcough*
Posted by mrs.conn23[/QUOTE]
I don't see an issue with them changing her schedule- changing a daycare that you like is a big farking deal. Who watches your child while you work is important.
[QUOTE]Yes. But I will add, I'd rather someone stay home with their sick kid and make me pick up the slack than brining your sick kid into work.
Posted by MinM[/QUOTE]
True story: I temped in an office once, and a kid had <strong>the mumps </strong>and the mom brought her to the office. Guess who had to temp for two times the work because one of the secretaries caught it? The office manager was apparently unaware that the coworker had brought in a mumps-infected kid, and the lady got <strong>demoted</strong>. She tried to sue the company for prejudice (apparently she construed it as sexism and bigotry because she was a single mother), but got kicked in the ass instead with a counter-suit from the secretary and the company for basically turning her kid into Typhoid Mary. Ugh.
[QUOTE]When you have kids you will understand. Get over yourself and do your job
Posted by 583118625003503[/QUOTE]
and for folks who choose not to have kids or are unable to have kids? why should they have to pick up the slack for people who do?
kids =/= free pass for slacking off at work
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vent : I don't see an issue with them changing her schedule- changing a daycare that you like is a big farking deal. Who watches your child while you work is important.
Posted by EdsdollfaceJen[/QUOTE]
Having a child is a choice and no employer is required to work around an employees personal choices. If arranging daycare and having a full time job are too difficult to manage either don't have kids or don't work full time. Like the PP's said, it's great when a job is flexible but it's annoying as hell when co-workers abuse those privileges.
[QUOTE]When you have kids you will understand. Get over yourself and do your job
Posted by 583118625003503[/QUOTE]
Not to mention a lot of responders HAVE kids. OP is doing her job. She should not need to do someone else's because of a personal decision.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vent : Having a child is a choice and no employer is required to work around an employees personal choices. If arranging daycare and having a full time job are too difficult to manage either don't have kids or don't work full time. Like the PP's said, it's great when a job is flexible but it's annoying as hell when co-workers abuse those privileges.
Posted by ElleB87[/QUOTE]
Exactly. My co-worker was not the only one being put out by the new schedule options. A lot of people had to make adjustments.
[QUOTE]When you have kids you will understand. Get over yourself and do your job
Posted by 583118625003503[/QUOTE]
If you have difficulty doing your job because you have children, maybe you should consider a different job or staying at home. I'm sure your co-workers think you're an asshole because they have to pick your slack.
in response....what i mean is "do YOUR job"
At some point, you need to worry about YOU and only YOU and let your co-worker that wants to do nothing until 4pm and then blame her kids fail! Let her get demoted, or in trouble, or whatever...
Worry about YOURSELF!!!!!!
[QUOTE]5811-whatever... if her job depends on someone else completing their part she CAN'T just worry about her job. She clearly stated that it was a group project.
Posted by thatgrrrrl[/QUOTE]
This.
And 'do YOUR job' =/= 'You' don't understand because you don't have kids'.
Maybe someday you'll grow up to be a responsible adult and then YOU will understand.
I just a friendly gal looking for options.
[QUOTE]Dear 8675309 or whatever...Maybe someday you'll grow up to be a responsible adult and then YOU will understand.
Posted by zsazsa-stl[/QUOTE]
::golf claps::
Zsa, you just made me laugh. That was a good one.:)
[QUOTE]in response....what i mean is "do YOUR job" At some point, you need to worry about YOU and only YOU and let your co-worker that wants to do nothing until 4pm and then blame her kids fail! Let her get demoted, or in trouble, or whatever... Worry about YOURSELF!!!!!!
Posted by 583118625003503[/QUOTE]
Well, when you get a big girl job aside from farting around with insignificant tasks that don't really matter for anything, you'll figure out that your coworkers may be responsible for a critical component that you need in order to do your job.
And throwing the slacking coworkers under the bus is a highly unprofessional thing to do, no matter how much this was the case.
Now, I think it's great that you want to attend every play, awards day, etc. However, grandma needs her job, so unless you plan on retiring, you can't make every event, yo.
Eh. Changing daycares *can* be a big deal. But seriously, that's not the company's problem. It's the mom's.
And honestly, this is one of the major reasons why I've stayed an independent consultant instead of working full-time. Every time I start thinking about going back FT, I end up staying home with sick kids who aren't allowed at daycare, or bringing them to 3 doctor's appointments or whatever, and it becomes clear that that isn't really an option for me unless I find a lot more/better backup childcare options.
What horks me off is that my co-worker didn't like that the odds weren't in her favor and wheedled a way out of bidding for her shift when the rest of us had to.
I DO have a "big girl" job, I am NOT an asshole, nor do my colleagues think so. I DO MY JOB and if someone is affecting the outcome of my product, you are damn right I am telling my boss about it. That does not make me unprofessional in the least bit. It doesn't make me a "tattle tale", and it doesn't make me a baby!!! You need to cover your own ass!
I should also state that I agree with you that children should not be used as an excuse for slacking off. You should be pissed about that! You should confront that co-worker! You shouldn't have to do double the work. But if you never say anything, that co-worker will think she can get away with it and will continue to do it! Which is why I said to just do YOUR job.
Not for anything, some of you are just rude. I didn't realize that this website became a place for brides/wives to be just plain mean to each other. I thought it was a site where we could discuss things about weddings.