Wow. This is a pretty rough crowd in here. I assumed the title of the message board ("Wedding Woes," right?) suggested that people will be venting and/or complaining about hang-ups pertaining to their wedding. I'm guessing you did, too, Lucky.In response to your post, I'm quickly realizing that people are people. They are more concerned with being "picked" than being an active participant in a moment that is very special to you. It is my understanding that the reason for having a bridal party is to have your nearest and dearest friends/relatives stand with you as you commit your life to another person forever. The assumption is that, if they are given an honor such as this, they would be willing to go along with what you want (such as a particular dress) and maybe even help you with a few odds and ends along the way. It sounds like this is the expectation that you placed on your MOH... but, the only problem is you didn't let her know what your expectations were before asking her to take on the role.What do you do? Sorry but you're stuck with her now. If you "unask" her it will place a permanent strain on your relationship. You seems like you just want someone who can share memories of wedding planning with. And that's completely understandable, who wouldn't? Unfortunately you made a bad decision and have to live with it. So now you can enlist the help of a RELIABLE friend, hire a consultant, or go it alone and enjoy the privilege of taking credit for the whole shebang.Personally, after being stood up for countless appointments by my mother and bridal party, I've decided to go it alone. They don't like it, but I refuse to put myself out there to be let down again. I'm not waiting around for anyone and you shouldn't either. So, dry your eyes, focus on what NEEDS to get done, get a backbone, and get it done. With three months to go, this is NOT the time to let your hormones and/or emotions get the best of you.Good luck, girly!
LOL @ you PPT. We actually weren't nasty to her at all. And, if you look further down the page, you'll see we helped her with a serious woe. [insert Wz's decapitated flower girl story here]
Re: MOH problems