Cliff Notes: BM 2 didn’t respond to any bachelorette planning (being handled by MOH). Now BM2 is upset about the cost. MOH reamed her out in an email and cc’d me, the bride. Where does this leave me and how should I best handle the situation?
Okay, this is a bit of a story but I’ll try to condense it. I’m the bride, and 2 of my BM’s live in the area, the MOH does not. MOH is a born party-planner, and she loves weddings, so I knew the bachelorette would be planned to a tee and god-knows-how intricate the plans are. MOH has been keeping emailing back and forth with the other BM’s about plans and what she wanted to do (to try and gauge if she was going too all-out or if they’d be okay with the costs she was looking at). It sounds like BM 2 has pretty much been out of contact and not responding to any emails for planning/budgeting, so MOH and BM 1have planned what they can without her. Well, I hear today (by way of a cc: in an email response from MOH to BM2) that BM2 is now saying things are getting too expensive for her, and politely asking if she can take part in less of the night because the cost is too much. MOH responds with “well you didn’t stay in touch at all during the planning so you could have told me this before now…” So… um… I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do, if anything. I’ve been kept out of the loop thus far on planning, other than hearing now and then that BM2 isnt really communicating. I feel bad because I know MOH has put her heart and soul into this party, and god knows she’s spending more than she should, but that’s how she is. I guess I just don’t know what to do, or if I should get involved at all. I’ve offered to help pay (but to be honest, it’ll be a stretch for me because I didn’t budget for it), and I don’t mind cutting back, but I have no idea what we’re doing or what the plans are, so how can I help? Normally I’d say I should keep my nose out of it, but I was cc’d on that email for a reason, and now my bridal party is at wits end. Just no fun. Any and all insights would be appreciated. I’m just at a loss as to what to do. Oh, and the party, is in 3 weeks.
ETA: In case it’s not clear, I haven’t been a part of the planning process for this at all. Just addresses for the invites. Otherwise, I’ve been uninvolved.