So I just talked to my mom and she asked who was going to walk me down the aisle. My dad passed away 3 and a half years ago. I told her I was thinking about having my 2 brothers do it and she was like "oh, well I figured you would ask grandpa. He would be really honored to do it." I said I thought it would be cool if my brothers did it even though they are in the wedding. She was like "how are they going to walk you down when they should be standing their 'post'?" I told her that they wouldn't be standing up there already and they could walk me down and then go stand by FI. She still was pressuring me to think about it (aka change my mind and do what she wanted me to do). I love my grandpa but I was thinking about asking him to do a grandfather-granddaughter dance with me.
I'm not opposed to him doing it. This is just hard. I don't want to hav eto choose. I just want my dad here. It sucks that my mom and my relationship has changed so much since she started dating that I wouldn't consider her to do it. My mom and I often but heads no days and she always demands that I stop stressing about the wedding. I just tell her things like the BM dresses are all to big and I feel bad that they all have to pay more $ to alter them. Then she lectures me about how it's not my problem. I understand I just wish this wasn't the case. I'm 25 years old and she won't stop telling me what to do! And she doesn't support me in any way and hasn't since my dad passed. This is so frusterating to talk to her.
We are moving in a week and a half and she wants to know when we will be there so she can be there when the moving truck pulls up. Who said this is what I want? She is so sensative, that if I give her any hint that I want a little space, she will be mad and me and more drama will be created.
Oh, what to do?
Thanks for listening. Sorry so long. It's just sad and frusterating:(