Help:(

Tori990

So Me and my fiance are getting married exactly 6 weeks after his sister, who I love dearly. I'm just worried that the people who are coming to both will compare them. My fiance and me are having a simple country wedding whereas his sister is having a very over the top "princess" wedding. Does anyone have any ideas that I could use to make my wedding more memorable and seperate? Please help!

sister2groom

Eh, sometimes people just compare sisters. I get asked if sister and I twins all the time even though we're quite a few years (and inches) apart.

Also, I don't know if  you actually feel this way, but the tone of your post  (e.g. "over the top")kind of sounds a bit jealous. I can definitely understand how it might be hard, but just try to try to focus on what matters, that is, that you're marrying your FI. And being a bride and a newlywed is something you get to share with your sister! 

Unfortunately there are some things I am judgmental about, but if I care about the couple (and I've never been to a wedding when I haven't) I don't judge the budget or elabaorate or simple nature of their weddings. Sure, I notice the difference between a pretty simple buffet and a 5 course plated meal, but I realize people have different resources (or choose to allocate resources differently.)

LittleMissCutiePie

I'd just do it your way. It will be different because it will be yours. People may compare them, but years down the line, people will stop, and just say "Wow, Torri990's wedding was wonderful. So was Torri990's sister's." No one will say "I liked the sister's wedding better". No one that matters, anyway.

krizzo17

Honestly, it sounds like your weddings are so different that it would be hard for people to compare them. If you were both having higher budget, "princess" wedding, people would be able to compare everything. But instead, you're each having a very different wedding, and chances are people will have two very different experiences.

allisonkbye

I agree with PP's and people will probably be relieved to attend what sounds like a more laid-back wedding after hers. As long as the food/drinks/entertainments good they are going to have a blast. You also have the awesome advantage that if there is anything about hers people hated or you didn't like, you have 6 weeks to make sure it doesn't happen for yours! lol 

RaptorSLH

Agreed. I've been to big budget weddings, and tiny affairs catered by family in the park.  The very fact that the styles have been so different makes me less likely to compare.  Even when I do compare, it's not about the budget, it's about the effect on me as a guest.  If it made me happy, I remember it as a good thing, whether it was a major expense, or a free but personal touch.