sister is ruining my wedding!

ERRRICA08

I got engaged in Dec. after three years with my fiance and was so excited to be geting married this Oct.  I am the second of two girls and was always in my older sisters shadow growing.  I was so excited to finally be there first to do someting and everyone get excited for me.  Then two months ago my sister calls me to tell me she is engaged!  And that she is getting married in August.  But she thinks that is plenty of time for everyone to "get reexcited" for my wedding!!!   Am I wrong to be upset and hurt and angry?  My mom says I am.   To top it off she asks me to be her MOH, so now along with planning my own wedding I have to plan all her bridal showers and parties and try and fit my schedule around her.

**O-Face**

You're not wrong, but you are being silly.  You only get one day.

E Squared

It's not right, but it's okay. You're going to make it anyway.

Butter Cookie

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[QUOTE]I got engaged in Dec. after three years with my fiance and was so excited to be geting married this Oct.  I am the second of two girls and was always in my older sisters shadow growing.  I was so excited to finally be there first to do someting and everyone get excited for me.  Then two months ago my sister calls me to tell me she is engaged!  And that she is getting married in August.  But she thinks that is plenty of time for everyone to "get reexcited" for my wedding!!!   Am I wrong to be upset and hurt and angry?  My mom says I am.   To top it off she asks me to be her MOH, so now along with planning my own wedding I have to plan all her bridal showers and parties and try and fit my schedule around her.
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Say No, and realize you get one day.

TheDuckis

You are wrong. Are you getting married because of some weird competition to be first, or are you getting married because you love your FI and want to spend the rest of your life with him?

HookaPants

Maybe you (or the both of you) should try counseling. You get one wedding day. As long as she's not trying to marry your FI before you, you're fine. I don't understand what prepping you have to do for her wedding that's going to take away from your wedding a few months later.

branz7

I'm getting married six weeks apart from my best friend and we're in each others BP's.

We literally sat down with calendars and said, "Ok, this week is good for one of your showers, this week we can do mine, etc." it's not taking away from our special time; it's enhancing it.

I'm sorry you feel overshadowed by your sis, but I would try  to enjoy the fact that you will be sharing this experience together.  You can always make the best of anything!

PharmacyBride

I realize you are upset- but she isn't trying to ruin your wedding.  She wants to marry the person she loves.  You can't call dibs on a whole season/year.

Weddings are a big deal- but the marriage to the person you love is by far a bigger deal.  And you can't ask expect them to put their life on hold.

My sis (engaged first; getting married 8 wks before me) thought she called dibs on the whole year - I told her- I am sorry - but I have been dating for 5 years.. saving for 3 years.. and we want to start our family soon.

If the parents are expected to pay for both weddings- however- I would make sure they get consulted (mine aren't paying for ours- so I wasn't worried)

deepcovejackie

Well, I guess I can maybe see how you feel a bit.  However that gives you no right to have a tantrum about it.  Your mom is right.  After reading the title of your post, it sounds as though you're over-reacting a tad.  Be happy for your sister, she's getting to marry the man she loves too.

therickson

You get one day to get married.... Not a season, not an entire year. We have had members of our families and 4 sets of good friends get engaged after us and plan weddings before ours. We are not going to be any less married and nobody is any less excited for our wedding.

If you cannot find time in your schedule for your sister - say no

smileybe

The same thing kind of happened to me.  I had been engaged for about a year when my older sister got engaged, and she is getting married about a month and half before me.  However, I think it has turned out really well.  It is fun to talk about wedding stuff together or about our future lives with our FIs.  

I think once you let the idea of having close weddings sink in, hopefully you will find the good opportunities that will come.  

Heffalump

Listen to your mom on this one.

katorigasuki

your wedding = ONE DAY.

be happy for your sister you harpie.