Hello, sensible brides that have survived/are surviving the wedding. Man, I am looking forward to marriage but this wedding planning business is killing me. I work full time, do not have a wedding planner (event planners in Kansas are few and far between), have no local bridesmaids. Needless to say, problems crop up. How did you guys deal with the following:
One; NO ONE is returning my RSVP cards, complete with cute song request and postage. I sent out 160 invitations to mostly families and couples, ostensibly we could be hosting 300 people pretty easily (casual dessert reception at nightfall in a public park, nothing fancy). I have gotten 7 cards back. I know that a lot of people assume that I know they will be there or not, but I need solid #’s, the wedding is a month away. Also, FMIL and MOB did not include phone# or email on their list. Only one couple used the online RSVP, only one couple has talked to me about a room for the night (the town has no hotels, we rented out a local private colleges gorgeous brand new dorms, and I have to assign rooms). What do I do? Set up 300 chairs and hope for the best?
Two; (and this is more rant than anything) I keep getting pestered with questions like this: “My friends got you some gifts but they are worried BC they couldn’t figure out how to check off the item on your registry. Can you fix that/ make it easier?” No. I cannot. Target can. It’s their website. Why not ask someone in a red shirt for a little help. Another one “Aunt Janice (a drunkitty drunkerson, currently ankle braceleted into her trailer) can’t get to your website. Your card must have been wrong.” (For the record, the card was A-OK, used it myself, voila, website.) I’m the BRIDE, not Tech Support! How do I draw the line between being a good and helpful bride, but not accessible to every guest for every issue? I feel like if getting a gift proves difficult for some reason, don’t get one. And If being a guest is a little confusing, RSVP no. But for God’s sake, RSVP!