You know what I'm tired of hearing?

MeaganR12

I'm sick and tired of hearing my FBIL and FMIL tell me how cheap his wedding was. Ever since they went to our cake and wine tasting with us and saw a rough figure of what we're paying they feel the need to tell me how cheap his was. Today he told me he payed $3/pp for the open bar at his wedding in downtown Denver 5 years ago. Really? I'm thrilled for you. But that's fucking impossible.

Now you go. 

AllyG303

HA!  I hear ya...my FMIL suggested we have a potluck for our wedding because that's what she and FFIL did.  No thanks...

lvissers

I'm tried of hearing how much airfare is to go to my Bachelorette party in Las Vegas and to San Diego for my wedding weekend. I have NO control over airfare prices people, I'm sorry! All of my bridesmaids live all over, so there was not a single place we could have gone that would have been convenient for everyone. Most everyone lives close enough to drive to Las Vegas within a 4-6 hour drive. Heaven forbid people might have to drive like myself to save money if airfares are outside your budget! Haha that felt good to vent!

Madisonpenny

Although not wedding related.. when people say "I can't imagine what you're going through"... I know they mean well..

MeaganR12

haha ally! Potluck, seriously? that's a new one. 

I'm right there with you on travel, vissers. I wish people would understand that we're not the people to complain to about prices. My FMIL told me they had to find a motel because our room block at $89/night was too expensive for the aunts and uncles. Exactly how much did you expect it to be?

ETA: I'll bet that gets old real fast, madisonpenny. I never know the right thing to say though. I try not to say "I'm sorry" because I'm not at fault for anything so what am I apologizing for? But I am sorry FOR you. So...?

KimC1983

I hear ya, Meagan!  Well, we did this and blah blah...and the whole thing was 500 dollars.  500 dollars my ass.  

And we've been dealing with where his brother had a whirlwind wedding that they moved up the date to two weeks before and had it in the church hall with NO decor, no table linens...and the food was cold cuts from Kroger...not even bread to make sandwich.  

SO YES, it's cheaper...but that's not how I roll.  

Hallanole

Oh gods, I'm still getting it from family members.

Mom- "I spent $600 on my wedding." This was at the Elks, she also catered her own wedding, in 1990. "You could of had it in my back yard and saved so much money." This I would of had to landscape her yard because the back yard, has potential, but is spotty with grass growing in as it doesn't like to grow. I can see people walking and getting dusty dirt. Oh wait, then misquitos because there is a cranberry bog right off the property...

Grandfather and Grandmother- "You are stupid for spending so much. I could get you the Elks for $500." Again with the flipping Elks. And yes, I'm told on a monthly basis that I am stupid for spending money on a wedding.

Great, you all are members and are Special in a Hon-key Dory way. But this Elks is like a dungeon. No light, small as can be dance floor, members can walk in. The place I picked is what I wanted and reflects me.

I really feel like screaming whenever I hear comments.

BrightFirefly

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[QUOTE]I hear ya, Meagan!  Well, we did this and blah blah...and the whole thing was 500 dollars.  500 dollars my ass.   And we've been dealing with where his brother had a whirlwind wedding that they moved up the date to two weeks before and had it in the church hall with NO decor, no table linens...and the food was cold cuts from Kroger...not even bread to make sandwich.   SO YES, it's cheaper...but that's not how I roll.  
Posted by KimC1983[/QUOTE]

No bread, really?

KimC1983

Yes.  Cold cuts and cheese.  No bread, rolls, pita, nothing.  But they did have cantaloupe cut into hearts...I wanted carbs.

tfunicello

Love this thread! I'm so sick of people asking where my honeymoon is, then replying with "Mexico? You better not get off the resort." FI & I travel a lot, we do our research & know what we're doing.

Skyjewell23

"You are crazy for planning a wedding during a school year".

Ugh. Yeah I know. I have realized that. Thank you for point out the obvious.

and here is my favorite:

"So when are you guys gonna have a baby?"

How about you let me walk down the aisle first, then we will jump to the baby making k?

Skyjewell23

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[QUOTE]Love this thread! I'm so sick of people asking where my honeymoon is, then replying with "Mexico? You better not get off the resort." FI & I travel a lot, we do our research & know what we're doing.
Posted by tfunicello[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>OMFG YES! I am so sick of hear this!</div>

Nati05

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[QUOTE]Love this thread! I'm so sick of people asking where my honeymoon is, then replying with "Mexico? You better not get off the resort." FI & I travel a lot, we do our research & know what we're doing.
Posted by tfunicello[/QUOTE]

Ughh I hate those kinds of dumb comments

mekiakoo

1. People asking us where we're going on our honeymoon and we say "Maine" and the first thing they always say is "why?" with a perplexed face. Um.... because we want to go to Maine? STFU!

2. FMIL keeps saying that our wedding is expensive (my parents are paying) and how we can get things cheaper up here. Um we are getting married in a big city, not in the middle of no where.

BeabullMom

I am tired of hearing from my brother and sister how much money my wedding is costing my parents.  Yes, my parents offered to pay for most of the wedding.  Yes, I am also paying for things as well (honeymoon, rings, hair and makeup for all my girls, some of the paper goods, favors, etc.).  It is not my fault that I am the youngest and the first to get married (and trust me, I am not young in terms of getting married...29).  Neither of them ever planned on getting married, and now my brother is in a relationship.  My sister still sees herself never marrying.  They just like to complain because I think they want to be compensated the money I am getting comtributed to my wedding.  IF YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED GO AHEAD!!!  Our parents will help you too!!!!!  GEEZ!!

Nati05

I'm sick and TIRED of hearing about my damn age. "You're getting married? Whyyy?!?!"

I'm tired of my mom. She asked me for the billionth time this week "Remind me again Natasha, WHY you are getting married in Ecuador?" Because I live here mom. Because we can't afford a US wedding. Because you and dad really would invite "everyone that's known me since I was a baby" (and that's a quote!) Because it's not true that you two would be able to cover costs by using what your airfare here would cost. Because it's not fair that my family CAN travel here no questions asked and his entire immediate family has to pay crazy money to apply for visas that they may never get.

And the truth is I feel like yelling at everyone, it's been a 2 year engagement!!!!! Why the hell did you just start preparing to come 4 months ago?? I wouldn't be able to afford it either duh! I know everyone's situations are tough, but I know these people I'm talking about. And I know none of them starting taking me seriously about our wedding until literally 4 months ago. It's THAT what pisses me off. Not that you can't afford it, I'm not cold hearted, I get it. But it does hurt that no one started taking my marriage seriously until it's almost July I might not even have a mom or MOH at my wedding. Great

elizabethmae315

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[QUOTE]"You are crazy for planning a wedding during a school year". Ugh. Yeah I know. I have realized that. Thank you for point out the obvious. and here is my favorite: "So when are you guys gonna have a baby?" How about you let me walk down the aisle first, then we will jump to the baby making k?
Posted by Skyjewell23[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes. And Yes. Along with perplexed looks. Yes, I am only 22. I also consider myself incredibly lucky to be able to spend this much of my life with the one. </div><div>
</div><div>And the baby thing. Not happening for a few years. And why do you feel the need to ask that? </div><div>
</div><div>I also hate "Hows Wedding Planning coming?" You really dont want to hear me talk about making invites or how i cant decide on decorations. You'll listen for about 30 seconds and then realize you dont actually care. so dont ask. </div>

Skyjewell23

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[QUOTE]  I also hate "Hows Wedding Planning coming?" You really dont want to hear me talk about making invites or how i cant decide on decorations. You'll listen for about 30 seconds and then realize you dont actually care. so dont ask. 
Posted by elizabethmae315[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>YES.</div><div>
</div><div>I know they don't care. I usually respond with "great" and leave it at that. 

</div>

Skyjewell23

I will also be 22. 

Today in class some girl decided to give this talk about how "you shouldnt marry young because you cant possibly know what you want... blah blah blah." STFU Thank you for staring at me the whole time you gave your little "speech" while im sorry you got divorced that does not in any way correlate with my age. kiss my butt.

singing_lyn

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[QUOTE]HA!  I hear ya...my FMIL suggested we have a potluck for our wedding because that's what she and FFIL did.  No thanks...
Posted by AllyG303[/QUOTE]

This is going to be long! Sorry I apologize in advance.

OMG SO YES! to this. My parents got married in the same church as we are and had a potluck reception in the basement with a borrowed dress, no decorations, no music, and my sister 13 years ago copied that and had the most boring wedding I've ever been to. I was a teenager and couldn't wait to leave the wedding and I was a bridesmaid. I'm sorry I want a fun wedding that my guests don't have to bring something to and they can enjoy themselves. Also, I'm lucky that my parents are putting in money towards the wedding, but I've been trying to get together with my mom to discuss the budget for months and I mean months since October at least in order to discuss the budget and what they are putting in because my mother wouldn't give me a finite number.

So about 2 weeks ago we are talking and my mom says $10,000 blah blah blah, and I'm like hang on, what? Our venue alone is almost that much at this point, so that means no flowers, no photography, no dj, nothing but food and the church. I knew we were going to have to put in money but not $10,000 ourselves, especially since my fiance is only working 2 part time jobs (because we're in the middle of friggen no where) right now and has no parents or family that will help. So for the past 2 weeks I have been chopping things left and right and I mean chopping everything. So no hors d'voures, cutting out a toast, and some other things from the reception, but it's to late to cut the guest list because I already sent out the invitations. So now I've gotten our reception down to about $6400 and what my FI and I will have to put in down to about $5200 with our honeymoon. I'm happy about that, but at the same time I've been basically killing myself for the last 2 weeks trying to get about $10,000 cut off.

So then my mom is comparing my wedding to my sisters saying she only put in about $1000 for her wedding and they rented the plants and my brother that got married 5 years ago they only paid for the rehearsal dinner and that was about $5000. And I know from my sister-in-law that their wedding was $25,000 and was put on in her parents back yard with family catering and her grandfather performing the ceremony, and they had to rent every single dish, piece of silverware, tent, everything.

So I'm friggen tired of my wedding being compared to everyone else's and and it being sooooo expensive when it's not and I've gotten the cost of the wedding down by $7000 and am actually under what I originally had set up for my budget other than with the honeymoon. And yes my venue is beautiful, but it's also the cheapest venue in the area! Just ARGGHHHH!!!! I'm tired of it.

BmoreBride311

I'm tired of the "You guys are FINALLY getting married. What took so long?" comments. Yeah, we've dated for 10 years, but in that time we've changed into basically completely different ppl, so it was important for us to know if the ppl we'd become would still be compatible. We've already had several friends meet, marry, and divorce in the time we've been happily together, so suck it.

BmoreBride311

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[QUOTE]1. People asking us where we're going on our honeymoon and we say "Maine" and the first thing they always say is "why?" with a perplexed face. Um.... <strong>because we want to go to Maine? STFU!</strong> Posted by mekiakoo[/QUOTE]

Katie, Maine is amazing! It was one of the top places my FI and I considered for our HM, but then we decided to pick some place we hadn't been yet. We ended up booking a trip to Napa Valley / wine country. Lots of ppl make weird comments to us about that.. they don't understand why we aren't going somewhere in Europe or on a beach. Next time someone says something about it to me, I'm gonna give them the STFU line haha.

LADY324

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[QUOTE]I'm sick and tired of hearing my FBIL and FMIL tell me how cheap his wedding was. Ever since they went to our cake and wine tasting with us and saw a rough figure of what we're paying they feel the need to tell me how cheap his was. Today he told me he payed $3/pp for the open bar at his wedding in downtown Denver 5 years ago. Really? I'm thrilled for you. But that's fucking impossible. Now you go. 
Posted by MeaganR12[/QUOTE]

Ugh I feel you my sh*t head father tells me all of the time you could have had your wedding where your brother and sister had their graduation party at the country club for $2,000.  And he tells me all of the time you shouldn't have had such a big wedding.  Well guess what asshole I am not asking your for a dime and this is what we wanted so back off and worry about how you spend your own money!!!

So I totally get where you are coming from!!

ceglare4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: You know what I'm tired of hearing? :  I also hate "Hows Wedding Planning coming?" You really dont want to hear me talk about making invites or how i cant decide on decorations. You'll listen for about 30 seconds and then realize you dont actually care. so dont ask. 
Posted by elizabethmae315[/QUOTE]

OMG yes! I am so sick of these generic question.

And bmore, I would die to go to wine country! It's way up there on our list of places to travel to soon, before we have kids.

Amanda1443994

1. Every other week my mom asking "I still don't get why you're not getting married in a Catholic Church!?" Well mom, FI is not Catholic and you have known about this for the past 5 years.

2. Everyone always asking me condescendingly "You're not changing your last name!?" or "You're not having kids right away!?" Seriously, it's a personal decision.

butterflyjumper1

this thread is amazing.

THe people who say "How is wedding planning going?!?" they don't give two shiits about the linen colors we have been agonizing over or the gifts we just ordered for our groomsmen or the card box we are about to make. so don't ask.

The people who ask about their invitations and what meals they are going to have at our reception WHO WE HARDLY KNOW AND ARE NOT INVITED.

The people who tell us we are insane for going to Mexico for our honeymoon.

The comparisons that FMIL keeps making to FSIL's wedding from two years ago.  She thinks that it was incredible cheap because they only paid for a tiny portion of it, and she thinks that because they only put in a little bit of $$, it was cheap. NOT TRUE! Their wedding was weird and absolutely not cheap - FMIL just has no idea what it REALLY cost. "But FSIL did it THIS way. You guys should do it THIS way too - it was so cheap and lovely." NO.

Also, the other thing that has been bothering me - FI and I want to live downtown. We are NOT suburbs people. We want to have a home as close to downtown (where we both work and where we like to go out/go out to eat/shop/etc.). Everyone thinks we are CRAZY. "oh, but the school districts aren't good, people who live downtown just like to go out, people who live downtown get broken in to and robbed all the time." WE DON'T CARE. We want to live downtown. There are decent schools around here, but we aren't going to have kids for a few years, and even then, they won't be in school until they are 5. We will find a good school for them and it will be fine!

bells24412

1. The people who ask you about "How is the wedding planning going?" You don't really give two sh!ts, so why are you asking?!

2. People telling my FI to run. Really? We have been together for 11 years, if he hasn't run now he isn't going to run before our wedding geez!

3. "Your wedding is at Quidnessett Country Club, wow your parents must be rich that place is expensive!" No you morons! It was actually the most affordable place in RI!!! If you searched every damn venue in RI you would know that!!!!

4. My FMIL constantly telling me "Stop looking at your registry, don't you want to be surprised at what you get?" Listen lady, I registered for these items, tell me where the effin' surprise is?!

bells24412

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[QUOTE]I'm tired of the <strong>"You guys are FINALLY getting married. What took so long?"</strong> comments. Yeah, we've dated for 10 years, but in that time we've changed into basically completely different ppl, so it was important for us to know if the ppl we'd become would still be compatible. We've already had several friends meet, marry, and divorce in the time we've been happily together, so suck it.
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

I HATE this crap too! My FI & I have been dating for 11 yrs. and I feel like telling people, mind your own damn business on how long it took us!

Maggieaha

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: You know what I'm tired of hearing? : Yes. And Yes. Along with perplexed looks. Yes, I am only 22. I also consider myself incredibly lucky to be able to spend this much of my life with the one.  And the baby thing. Not happening for a few years. And why do you feel the need to ask that?  I also hate "Hows Wedding Planning coming?" You really dont want to hear me talk about making invites or how i cant decide on decorations. You'll listen for about 30 seconds and then realize you dont actually care. so dont ask. 
Posted by elizabethmae315[/QUOTE]

All of this. So tired of those questions. And my LEAST favorite, "Has your fiance found a job yet?!?" Um, that's kind of a sore subject, and he's working on it. YOU'LL BE THE FIRST TO KNOW. Now leave me alone.
Grrr...

butterflyjumper1

ohhhhhhh we also get "wow, glad to hear you are FINALLY getting married" and "well, of COURSE you are going to get a huge ring, you waited long enough for him to propose!" It's none of your business how long we waited you poopheads!

bridetobe71412

1. I too am sick of hearing how expensive everything is from EVERYONE (even people who aren't paying for the wedding, like my brother). It's a wedding - prices are more than you'd think they "should" be. I don't care that you can get a dozen roses for X dollars. This is a wedding; they charge twice that.

2. I am sick of hearing "OH MY GOD YOU'RE GOING TO AFRICA!? WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT FOR YOUR HONEYMOON!" Um, because we want to?

3. I am sick of the comments people make about my ring, too, butterfly. Yes, it's a nice ring, but fiance wanted it to be an investment. I didn't pick the ring out, either, so please do not look at me like I'm some spoiled brat who MADE HIM BUY this ring. He chose it himself and it was what he wanted to spend. I didn't REQUIRE that he spend this on me. I'm not that materialistic.