My Mom Died...

tiffanynh

Three weeks ago, my mom suffered a fatal heart attack in her sleep. She was 59. I was planning a destination wedding in Las Vegas, for April 2012. Now I don't know what to do. It all seems pretty frivolous now--- like I want to just elope, but part of me wants to see it through, and honor her ---my best friend's memory in the ceremony. She was my best friend---a single parent, raising me-- for most of my life, it was just the two of us, before my stepdad came along 12 years ago.

I could just be ranting, but I saw some good suggestions for incorporating her memory into the ceremony on another board. If anyone has any suggestions or ideas, or has gone through something similar and has some advice or insights---I'm not looking for a cure for grief--I just don't want to feel so alone...

Sincerely,
Tiff

TheDuckis

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Take some time to grieve and regroup before you make any decisions. There are a lot of lovely ways to honor a lost parent during your wedding, but if you decide a big party isn't what you want, there's nothing wrong with doing something small and private.

6fsn

I am so sorry for your loss. 

I agree with Duckis on this.  Take some time to grieve and sort out the wedding later.  As for ideas there are a lot of big and small things- A locket with her picture tucked into your bouquet or dress, any jewelry she might have loved, an empty chair with flowers on it, something in the program.  It's not nearly the same loss, but I wore my grandma's perfume on my wedding day.  It made her feel near.

Whatever you decide, do what's best for you.  Everyone will understand.

[Deleted User]

I am so sorry for your loss. Definitely take a break from planning the wedding and take time to grieve. Surround yourself with loving and supportive friends and family.

NOLABridesmaid

I don't think you should make any major decisions right now. You may ending up regretting a rash decision in the long run. So sorry for your loss.