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settle this argument.

as i have been whining about, we are spending the weekend with the inlaws.  there is at least one trip to a seafood restaurant planned, and ideally more.

dh and i have a pair of seafood scissors.  i suggested we bring them and offer them to sil and bil, in case the kids want them or if it will make it easier to open crab legs for the kids.  (there is one restaurant some of us want to go to, and it does not do scissors -- it is mallets only.)

dh said that it was presumptuous and insulting to sil and bil's parenting.  i feel it is merely helping, and if they don't want them, i will use them. 

am i in the wrong here? 
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    *Barbie**Barbie* member
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    edited December 2011
    if you're going to use them anyways, i don't see any issue with offering them to BIL and SIL for the kids to use too. 
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    edited December 2011
    No, you're bringing them as an alternative to mallets. Anybody who wants to use them can, not just the kids.
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    6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011

    Can you send an e-mail and ask if they want you to bring them?

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    **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    Act like they're the best ever and maybe they'll want to try.
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    TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    I would not bring my own utensils to a restaurant. I also don't see why you need anything more than a mallet and a semi-sharp knife to open crabs legs.

    But I don't think offering is at all a commentary on their parenting
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    nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    edited December 2011
    Just take them and stop this nambypambybullshitting over some scissors you're going to use anyways.
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    baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_settle-this-argument?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:677c2511-4a06-414b-b68e-cf6f16b14671Post:eb75790d-b4fc-4001-96de-1d4dc9a0cbce">Re: settle this argument.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would not bring my own utensils to a restaurant. I also don't see why you need anything more than a mallet and a semi-sharp knife to open crabs legs. But I don't think offering is at all a commentary on their parenting
    Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

    <div>You wanna give kids a mallet and a semi-sharp knife?!</div><div>
    </div><div>Bring it for the kids. It's not a comment on parenting, it's offering a useful tool. I'm not going to snap at someone who offers me a wet-wipe when they see me using Magic Mom Spit to clean Bacon's face. </div>
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    TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm talking about a step above a butter knife. I've been eating crabs that way since I was 4 or 5. You're more likely to cut yourself on the pointy ends of the shell than you are on the knife.

    If the kids are too young to be handling the utensils than someone should be picking the crabs for them. In that case, the scissors are a moo point.
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    *Barbie**Barbie* member
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    edited December 2011
    Last time DH had crab legs in Atlantic City he sliced his finger open on the shell. I think he would have loved to have scissors or his claw breakers at that point. 

    i don't eat seafood, but he let me try cleaning a leg and claw for him once - it took me like 15 minutes to get all of the meat out. Scissors would have been way easier.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_settle-this-argument?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:677c2511-4a06-414b-b68e-cf6f16b14671Post:0fbec495-6ecf-4cf5-89a3-ea24e590dd47">Re: settle this argument.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm talking about a step above a butter knife. I've been eating crabs that way since I was 4 or 5. You're more likely to cut yourself on the pointy ends of the shell than you are on the knife. If the kids are too young to be handling the utensils than someone should be picking the crabs for them. In that case, the scissors are a moo point.
    Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]


    I agree with everything about this.
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    HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_settle-this-argument?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:677c2511-4a06-414b-b68e-cf6f16b14671Post:0fbec495-6ecf-4cf5-89a3-ea24e590dd47">Re: settle this argument.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm talking about a step above a butter knife. I've been eating crabs that way since I was 4 or 5. You're more likely to cut yourself on the pointy ends of the shell than you are on the knife. If the kids are too young to be handling the utensils than someone should be picking the crabs for them. In that case, <strong>the scissors are a moo point.
    </strong>Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]
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    loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I say bring them. It's not a big deal.

    And I don't think mallets and knives should be given to children under the age of 8-10.
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    baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    Bacon uses steak knives for regular food, but I wouldn't trust her opening up shellfish. I wouldn't trust ME opening up shellfish. 

    I still say bring the scissors. Mallets and knives sound like trouble; why wouldn't the restaurant convert to scissors? 
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    hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    the kids are 2 and 4.  they would not be using the scissors; bil and sil would to make opening seafood faster and more efficient.

    i imagine that the restaurant uses mallets because it's more fun and less expensive to replace.

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    TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    Because a seafood restaurant serving crabs with scissors is like an Aian restaurant serving food with forks. Just because it's easier doesn't make it correct.

    I also imagine that scissors would tend to crush the shells and send little shards into the meat. If you use your mallet and knife correctly this doesn't happen.
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    baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    See, I don't eat this stuff, and this doesn't make me want to.  And I'd be pretty pissed if I couldn't get a fork, no matter what kind of food was being served. 


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    hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    i wanted to settle this argument, not argue about the correct way to eat crabs.  foget it.  i'm ordering a salad wherever we go.
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