Hey ladies, I know I haven't been on here for an eternity. Turns out wedding planning and the rest of life didn't leave much chill time to check TK and the 50 wedding blogs I had originally read in the first 12 months of my engagement. I did some lurking. I will eventually
post vendor reviews, although I will have few because most of the wedding was DIY.
I've had this frustration chewing at me for a few weeks now, and couldn't think of a better place to blow off some of the steam/ get opinions than here. So here goes....
My photographer. He had a special running, and I jumped. We were on an extreme budget (that continued to shrink as the wedding drew nearer.) Photography was the number one most important thing to me, and I'm really glad I was able to hire a professional. One bummer was that there wasn't enough time to get some of the pictures I had had in mind. I try not to dwell on it.
The difficult part, for me, is that we were promised (not written in the contract) some "instant gratification photos" within a week of the wedding, posted on facebook. I'm sure many of you know of these- the 2-10 photos many professionals will post on their site or blog shortly afterwards. Well, we impatiently awaited these to show up...the first week we didn't notice because we were on our honeymoon and steering away from all electronics. After three weeks, I noticed my photographer's facebook page said he was shooting another wedding. THE NEXT DAY he posted a picture of that bride and groom. At first, I was only a little ticked. I sent him an email- a very happy, positive, polite email inquiring about our "instant gratification" photos. He responded with a half-a$$ed excuse and said he'd get to it asap.
The next day he posted one fantastic picture of my husband and I. By then, he had also posted three more photos of the other more recent wedding. It's been six and a half weeks, and that is the only picture of his I've seen; yet I've seen many more of the other wedding posted.
Now I understand my photographer has a very busy life as well. I get that, really.
I feel judged. Maybe it's part of post-wedding blues? I'm not sure. But every photo he posts of the beautiful wedding and the gorgeous bride...I feel as if my wedding was denounced by this other one because he liked it better: it was more expensive, the bride skinnier, it was in a beautiful location.
Am I insane? Am I presuming too much? My entire engagement I forced myself not to compare others' weddings to what mine would be. I was proud that my wedding was unique and exemplified my husband's and my style and relationship. I still think these things, but I have this crappy feeling that won't leave me; that I was and am being judged by my photographer.