FH using money from our wedding account

NOLABridesmaid

You know it.
 
It's not worth it for him to attend if he can't pack lunch the next day.

akmackay

If you don't tackle this problem now, you will have much bigger issues later. You can't just ignore it... financial issues are the #1 reason for divorce. Better to discuss it now than be sorry later...

fatpenguin4304

I definitely understand that having a joint account for the first time can be awkward territory, especially if your the one who makes more money. Since he pays the bills maybe he felt like it was okay for him to dip into the wedding fund for a little spending money. Unless he's really invovled in the planning he might not realize that you need all of it. You just have to talk to him calmly, people are always edgy when it comes to money and guys often feel insecure if the girl makes more than he does. Don't acuse or "scold" him (men, like children don't like this) but you need to speak up if this bothers you. Explain that the weddding fund is limited and you already feel like your stretching to afford everything.
I understand you don't want to be the nagging wife but sometimes yelling is necessary, men no matter how wonderful are thickheaded.

mehgank

There are so many red flags in the original post, I don't even know where to start.

First of all, as pp's mentioned, getting married doesn't instantly mean you are required to have a joint account. Take this situation as a lesson learned that you two should maintain separate accounts, at least for a little while.

Secondly, have you considered splitting the bills more evenly? Especially since you say you make more money. I seriously think you should consider taking on more financial responsibility in this relationship. This will also take some of the monetary burden off your FI since he won't feel so strapped for cash due to him making less combined with him paying for everything.

Thirdly, you shouldn't feel afraid to talk to your FI for any reason, including your fear of coming off like you're scolding him. There are better ways of speaking to your FI than treating him like a child.

While it is taking him a while to repay the $400, (in my opinion) one pay period doesn't warrant you getting so worked up about it. It could be that (as I mentioned before) he's so strapped for cash because he's paying for all of your (yours and his) bills that he doesn't have any leftover to repay you.