So FI and I have decided not to serve BBQ with all the sides for our reception since our # is nearly half what we invited. Our ceremony is at 2 in the afternoon which puts our reception starting around 3-3:30. We figured most people will have eaten before the ceremony and will not want to sit down for a large meal in the late afternoon. So now we are doing something small but hopefully filling. I was thinking appetizers such as vegatable trays, fruit trays and cold cut trays.Any other suggestions as to what else to serve or seen any ideas that have worked well?