In our region the dollar dance is pretty common at receptions, every wedding we have been to has had one. That being said I HATE the idea of doing a dollar dance. It seems so greedy. FI is really upset that I don't want to do one. He loves it, always brings cash to weddings so he can participate. He can be very socially awkward and doesn't pick up on subtelties of social interactions well so having explicit social "rules" (ie pay a dollar dance with bride or groom for a certain amount of time) is much easier for him than trying to mingle and make small talk with people and figure out how he is supposed to be behaving. I fully and completely understand why he wants one and I know that no one in our circle of family or friends would bat an eye if we had one, some may even expect it. However, I still strongly dislike the idea.
The only compromise I could come up with was that we do the dollar dance with the money being a "suggested donation" to our favorite charity. What do you ladies think?
I also, after making this suggestion to him, realized that there are no men invited to our wedding that I wouldn't feel horribly uncomfortable being forced to dance with, aside from about 2 of my friends (and my dad and brothers). This makes me want to lean more towards just not doing it at all.