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Ungrateful wedding party

Our wedding is a week away and simply am so frustrated with my
Bridal party that I can't stand it! Firstly I planned my bridal shower for myself as well my my fiances and mine bachelor parties. Not only did they complain about the drive, we went to miami from orlando, but once I got them in the club for free they complained about the prices of the drinks. Since this included my fiances men they complained about going to the club and made it miserable. His best man didn't even offer to buy him a drink and just sat sulking and drinking himself into a
Coma. The bridesmaids bought no bachlorette gifts which I understand money is tight but if I get you into somewhere for free, pay for half your hotel room, and all your paying is food and gas why is everyone complaIning to me about spending money? Not To mention they complained
More about the bad weather which was already steessing me out and the strip club that followed. It was a horrible experience and I wish my fianc and I would have gone with just us. Maybe I'm just frustrated but it seemed really
Ungrateful of them and their behavior just made me wonder if they are even really that close of friends am I wrong to be upset?

Re: Ungrateful wedding party

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_ungrateful-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:8dcfaf2f-5e8c-4e9c-a31e-6f9e9c769941Post:1e427180-eb12-45fd-ab6b-8f4697240c41">Ungrateful wedding party</a>:
    [QUOTE]Our wedding is a week away and simply am so frustrated with my Bridal party that I can't stand it! Firstly I planned my bridal shower for myself as well my my fiances and mine bachelor parties. Not only did they complain about the drive, we went to miami from orlando, but once I got them in the club for free they complained about the prices of the drinks. Since this included my fiances men they complained about going to the club and made it miserable. His best man didn't even offer to buy him a drink and just sat sulking and drinking himself into a Coma. The bridesmaids bought no bachlorette gifts which I understand money is tight but if I get you into somewhere for free, pay for half your hotel room, and all your paying is food and gas why is everyone complaIning to me about spending money? Not To mention they complained More about the bad weather which was already steessing me out and the strip club that followed. It was a horrible experience and I wish my fianc and I would have gone with just us. Maybe I'm just frustrated but it seemed really Ungrateful of them and their behavior just made me wonder if they are even really that close of friends am I wrong to be upset?
    Posted by Cvalle1207[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>You're not supposed to throw your own showers or bachelor/bachelorette parties.  These are things that people throw FOR you in YOUR HONOR.   And it's not your bridesmaids responsibility to do this for you.  You aren't ENTITLED to either of these things.  I've been married twice and haven't had any showers or bachelorette parties.   It's not automatically assumed that people will host these parties. </div><div>
    </div><div>So basically what happened here is that you demanded these parties, and threw them for yourself.  My guess is that your bridesmaids didn't offer to throw you these parties because they couldn't afford it in the first place.  So then you threw them for yourself and essentially demanded they be there, and spend money they didn't have to travel to a different city for a weekend (doesn't matter that you helped pay for part of it...they had to pay for the rest).  And you're upset that they didn't get you BACHELORETTE GIFTS?  I've never even HEARD of bachelorette gifts.  </div><div>
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    edited August 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_ungrateful-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:8dcfaf2f-5e8c-4e9c-a31e-6f9e9c769941Post:1e427180-eb12-45fd-ab6b-8f4697240c41">Ungrateful wedding party</a>:
    [QUOTE]Our wedding is a week away and simply am so frustrated with my Bridal party that I can't stand it! Firstly I planned my bridal shower for myself as well my my fiances and mine bachelor parties. Not only did they complain about the drive, we went to miami from orlando, but once I got them in the club for free they complained about the prices of the drinks. Since this included my fiances men they complained about going to the club and made it miserable. His best man didn't even offer to buy him a drink and just sat sulking and drinking himself into a Coma. The bridesmaids bought no bachlorette gifts which I understand money is tight but if I get you into somewhere for free, pay for half your hotel room, and all your paying is food and gas why is everyone complaIning to me about spending money? Not To mention they complained More about the bad weather which was already steessing me out and the strip club that followed. It was a horrible experience and I wish my fianc and I would have gone with just us. Maybe I'm just frustrated but it seemed really Ungrateful of them and their behavior just made me wonder if they are even really that close of friends am I wrong to be upset?
    Posted by Cvalle1207[/QUOTE]

    <div>Holy crap!  Are you serious?  </div><div>
    </div><div>You need to get a grip and start doing some damage control.  You have gone so far over the line that you can't even see it anymore.  You can be sure that all of these people are in shock about what a crazy, controlling psycho you've been.  </div>
  • i find it quite odd and unusual your first post and day of sign up is you complaining how ungrateful your WP is.  if you had come to us sooner you would know you dont throw your own parties.  now you pissy cause you you you did x y z and got nothing.  ugggg smh really? i wouldnt have come and since they did you still gripping how bout if you put on your big girl almost married panties and talk to the ladies.  they may have a reason why they didnt.  and btw did it ever occur to you they may have something planned for later in the week? nope apparently not uggggg lil girls and their thinking they entitled
  • You are wrong to be upset. You demanded they spend the weekend with you, doing what you wanted to do (club and strip joint), and making them pay for half of it.  You should thank them for giving up their time.
  • Please say this is MUD.  Please say this is MUD.  Please say this is MUD.  This is too perfect of a first post to be anything else.
  • First post, joined today,, and the whole post is a slew of hot button issues?

    No way in hell this is real ... or even that entertaining.

    Try again.

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  • this has nothing to do with receptions think should repost under snarky brides or chit chat
  • we are in the same boat.

    my friends that arent in WP were more excited about my bachelorette party and shower.

    my friends and I planned my bachelorette party. mom planned my shower.

    Just shake it off.
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  • Is somebody bored?  A good troll knows not to make the mistakes you've made in this post.
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    [QUOTE]<strong>Is somebody bored?  A good troll knows not to make the mistakes you've made in this post.</strong>
    Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

    Hehe that's what I was thinking. I usually lurk here and I've posted a few times but I'm not a regular. Even I know this is too much drama for one post.

    OP- if this whole issue is real, you need to get a grip! You don't throw any parties for yourself, it's not the wedding party's job to do anything except buy their clothing for the wedding and show up sober and on time. Sorry to burst your bubble but, a lot of people don't have a ton of extra cash to spend on everything that YOU want.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Ungrateful wedding party : You're not supposed to throw your own showers or bachelor/bachelorette parties.  These are things that people throw FOR you in YOUR HONOR.   And it's not your bridesmaids responsibility to do this for you.  You aren't ENTITLED to either of these things.  I've been married twice and haven't had any showers or bachelorette parties.   It's not automatically assumed that people will host these parties.  So basically what happened here is that you demanded these parties, and threw them for yourself.  My guess is that your bridesmaids didn't offer to throw you these parties because they couldn't afford it in the first place.  So then you threw them for yourself and essentially demanded they be there, and spend money they didn't have to travel to a different city for a weekend (doesn't matter that you helped pay for part of it...they had to pay for the rest).  And you're upset that they didn't get you BACHELORETTE GIFTS?  I've never even HEARD of bachelorette gifts.  
    Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]

    <div>This.  OP, seriously, you're a little nuts.  I'm a bridesmaid to a similar bride, and it's killing me emotionally and financially.  These are you friends and loved ones- you are being ungrateful, entitled, rude, and just plain spoiled.  If nobody offers to do these things for you, then guess what, you DON'T GET THEM.  And guess what else, you still get to get married!  And the world will not come to an end.  Your bridesmaids are not being selfish or rude or whatever you think of them- they just have their own lives that do not revolve around you.</div>

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  • Darn, I didn't read the whole thread.  I didn't see this was her first post.  Okay, I call MUD.

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  • I  don't think your bridal party are the ungrateful ones.
  • I dont even understand the fun of trolling...? Wasting everyone's time...
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