One of my BMs tells me on Monday that she cannot be in my wedding, which is on Oct. 9th (about 12 days away). The reason being she does not have the $$ for her dress. So me, the FI and the rest of my BMs offer to help her out with the cost of her dress so she can still be in the wedding. About a day later I get this text msgs from her about how I am so rude to ask her that and she doesn't need my help with anything... and to have a nice wedding. Is that really rude of me? (And to give a little background another BM backed out the wedding about 2 months ago. So now my bridal party is going to be lopsided me with 4 and him with 6).