Dollar Dance Songs..

GoodLuckBear14

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_dollar-dance-songs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:ae2109a5-63c1-4cd8-a927-3a088ce44070Post:4c822006-ee05-4791-a5cc-65b0e3f22b61">Re: Dollar Dance Songs..</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dollar Dance Songs.. : yep. That is why there are categories.  A DD is not unusual, and fairly common for a lot of cultures and geographic locations.  We will never agree but plain and simple, OP didn't ask anyone's opinion re it, just for dance suggestions.  If it really bothers you, start a post in Ettiquette where the pros and cons belong.
Posted by IamTheMommaOfTheBride[/QUOTE]

If something is rude, we are going to tell the poster on any damn board where the idea shows up. 

OP: Here are some ideas if you insist on doing this:
Material Girl - Madonna
Money Money Money - The O'Jays
Greedy - Ice-T

ablair8808

Well seeing how this is my post I am going to put my own opinion in.
I personally dont like dollar dances and agree that they are tacky. My Fiance had asked me to find songs for one.. which I had no idea what it was supposed to be(which is why I created this post). I agree 10 songs is way too long. we were looking at 3 and i would NEVER expect people to do it. Ive been to a wedding where they changed it to a $5 dollar dance and that was the only time i really got to see the bride. While talking to my fiance I found out that he didnt even want to do it he thought I did. SO I came on here to Thank everyone who actually reccomended a song and instead found everyones opinions. I agree everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion but the thing I do not appreciate is all the arguing. So in the end Thank you all for pointing out the pros and cons to me and my fiance and for the song reccomendations. In the end its our choice, our opinion, and our wedding. To those of you for it and having a DD hope you have fun and get what you need/want! To those against it, thanks for pointing everything out. To those that stuck up for me while I was unable to read this thank you!

I hope everyone enjoys their special day however they chose to celebrate it!

Lastly it would be greatly appreciated if you could please not argue on my post..

Thank you!

Summer2011Bride

Momma: No one made you President of TK. It's nice that you apparently think that but you can't tell us what goes on which board. Now that we have that setlled.....

OP, you also can't tell people to not argue in your post. Having a discussion and hearing everyone's opinion is what you get on a message board. I'm glad you found what you thought were some helpful answers.

ablair8808

Ok well I did not tell people not to argue on my post. I said it would be greatly appreciated if it would stop. Thats not saying do not argue on my post its asking you to please be respectful and stop. I do believe we are all adults here so I would hope that you would have some respect. Like I said everyone is entiltled to his or her own opinion, Im getting married in a week and I really dont need the added stress of seeing people arguing over something I believe to be so small. If I knew how to delete this posting I would but unfortunately I do not use this site very often so I dont know how to work it at all.

Again I wish everyone the best of luck!
If someone could tell me how to delete this I will do so

Thanks

Summer2011Bride

It seems like you're getting really uptight over a message board thread. Asking people to not argue is the same thing; you are arguing semantics. If reading this is stressing you out, don't read it! Have a glass of wine, go for a walk, take a deep breath.

ETA: You can't delete threads; only mods can and they only do it if it's inappropriate or a duplicate. neither applies here. It's actually a good idea to keep this thread up so that other brides with the same issues/questions can see it and not have to ask the same question all over again. Just don't read the thread anymore.

joe&cassie

I live in the south but all of my family is from the north where they do Dollar Dances.  If we do one it will be 1 or 2 songs at the most.  When my aunt got married I was young and I absolutely loved it!  I think it's great to do with kids around because they love dancing with the people.  I think I gave my aunt and uncle 5 or 6 dollars total.  It was mostly the young kids doing it.  We are going to have tons of kids at our wedding since I have cousins who are 3 and 4 right now.  Haven't decided whether or not I am going to do it.  If we have a family friend do the DJ ing and he doesn't charge then I may do it and give the proceeds to the DJ as a thank you.  who knows. 

bratto06

i thinks it super tacky to have them get you a gift come to your wedding possibly stay in a hotel and oh yeah pay to dance with the bride...I wouldnt do it...makes for a akward moment for sure and then people feel obligated to do it...

bratto06

<div>I agree with this post..You usually get one or two gifts , travel , get clothes and want to come and have a great time not have to worry if you have change for the dance</div><div>
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</div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_dollar-dance-songs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:ae2109a5-63c1-4cd8-a927-3a088ce44070Post:319fceae-d875-43e2-979e-c0d570e4c450">Re: Dollar Dance Songs..</a>:
[QUOTE]I feel like banging my head against a wall here. I don't give one flying fuuck if it's a tradition amongst your group. You do not ask people to pull out their wallets at an event intended to be a thank you to them . If you don't understand this most basic concept of being a gracious host, there is likely little anyone can do to help you.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

RebeccaB88

I love it when we all get jumped on for trying to keep a fellow bride from making an absolute embarassment of herself at her own wedding. 

[Deleted User]

I don't remmeber what the name of the song is but there was this rap song I heard once that in the chorus they kept repeating "if you ain't got no money take your broke ass home!" That sounds pretty good for dollar dances.

Funny story my Mom told me the other day that she went to a wedding years ago with my Dad where they had to travel to the wedding and spent money on the "appropriate" attire and gift.

At the reception they started the dollar dance. The wedding party started dragging people up to participate. When the MOH came to grab my Mom she held up a dollar and said, "They either get this or the gift. Let me know which one they want." They were left alone for the rest of the evening.

JoanE2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_dollar-dance-songs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:ae2109a5-63c1-4cd8-a927-3a088ce44070Post:9f939f1a-77ed-4fe1-a023-f9ab971a15c7">Re: Dollar Dance Songs..</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't remmeber what the name of the song is but there was this rap song I heard once that in the chorus they kept repeating "if you ain't got no money take your broke ass home!" That sounds pretty good for dollar dances. Funny story my Mom told me the other day that she went to a wedding years ago with my Dad where they had to travel to the wedding and spent money on the "appropriate" attire and gift. At the reception they started the dollar dance. The wedding party started dragging people up to participate. When the MOH came to grab my Mom <strong>she held up a dollar and said, "They either get this or the gift. Let me know which one they want."</strong> They were left alone for the rest of the evening.
Posted by JordanF13[/QUOTE]

This is great! 

The typical guest spends money on an engagement gift, shower gift and wedding gift.  Not to mention the possibility of something new to wear, hotel room and other travel expenses.  And people who are in favor of dollar dances think it's completely appropriate to ask for more money at a reception that is supposed to be a thank you to the guests.  "Thank you for coming, please give me more money!!". 

Really?!? I don't care if it's a dollar, it's the principle.   And it's rude.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dollar Dance Songs.. : <strong>This is great!</strong>  The typical guest spends money on an engagement gift, shower gift and wedding gift.  Not to mention the possibility of something new to wear, hotel room and other travel expenses.  And people who are in favor of dollar dances think it's completely appropriate to ask for more money at a reception that is supposed to be a thank you to the guests.  "Thank you for coming, please give me more money!!".  Really?!? I don't care if it's a dollar, it's the principle.   And it's rude.
Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah my Mom is pretty awesome. She viewed it as common sense not etiquette. </div>

mollyglett

You're all stupid and pretentious.


"Oh lord that is TACKY and BORING and I only think so because I care how people think of me. So, I am going to judge you"

Grow the fuzz up.

Have the dollar dance if you want to, who cares if your guests like it or not. If they are bored during it maybe they shouldn't have come to a wedding where they don't have anyone to talk to. If anything is tacky it's going to be hiking your skirt up to your garter belt so your groom can take it off with his teeth or whatever. Thats a tradition too, and everyone does it. Assholes should keep their mouths shut.


Eric Clapton- You look wonderful tonight

KjB1986

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[QUOTE]In need of serious help thinking of songs for dollar dances?!?! ANY ideas welcome!!!!! Thanks!!!
Posted by ablair8808[/QUOTE]


I'm so sorry that everybody is giving you such a hard time about YOUR wedding... They can have their own and do whatever they want at it right?!  I live in Northern New York and yes.. the dollar dance is an expected tradition as well.  Nobody that I have ever talked to about it has said that it is "tacky" or a money-grab.  It's just what people do around here.  I, too, am looking for Dollar Dance suggestions and checked your thread to get some good ideas..... but it looked like it's just full of selfish and rude people who think that just because they have an opinion about what THEIR wedding should be like.. they need to run what YOU want to do @ yours down. 

On that note, I'm sorry I don't have any to offer you yet.  My search for one myself has just begun.  But, don't let what anyone else says about *YOUR* big day change your mind about anything that you want to do.  It's just that--YOUR day.  Hope it's wonderful for you! :)

vmichae3

I don't think the Apron dance is tacky. I feel like the garter toss would be more tacky than the apron dance. I plan on doing the money dance at my wedding and plan on using more swing dance music because I know that my family likes to get down to faster pace music and have a good time. So I would recommend thinking about the group of people that will be there and think about what will draw people on the dance floor.

MyNameIsNot

OMG, what is with digging up a year old thread to try to validate someone's greedy idea?  It's a freaking epidemic.

Nicoleayala

WOW you ladies are so pleasant. Its YOUR wedding and I'm pretty sure you can do WHATEVER you want. Everyones situation is different and if your guests are close friends and family they should not be offended or think its rude or tacky. All the weddings I have ever been to have had the money dance and I think its a great tradition. If your forking over 10k for a wedding for people to eat and drink for free and come celebrate I dont think it hurts to have them contribute to a honeymoon or something. Im getting married in September and I will be having a money dance and guess what if no one likes it they can not participate plain and simple. Sorry you got such rude feedback from everyone

NYCMercedes

Nicoleayala said:

WOW you ladies are so pleasant. Its YOUR wedding and I'm pretty sure you can do WHATEVER you want. Everyones situation is different and if your guests are close friends and family they should not be offended or think its rude or tacky. All the weddings I have ever been to have had the money dance and I think its a great tradition. If your forking over 10k for a wedding for people to eat and drink for free and come celebrate I dont think it hurts to have them contribute to a honeymoon or something. Im getting married in September and I will be having a money dance and guess what if no one likes it they can not participate plain and simple. Sorry you got such rude feedback from everyone

Woo! You realize you just got two points for posting this! Way to go!

melbelleup

ablair8808 said:

In need of serious help thinking of songs for dollar dances?!?! ANY ideas welcome!!!!!

Thanks!!!

Traditional dollar dances are done with polka music... if you're interested in the tradition like I am.

MayDay513

@Knotporscha - Can we retire this thread? Originally started in 2012.