Alcohol at reception?

dirtymartini

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_alcohol-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:ba5e55d3-ac8d-4453-a9bf-8a6eeb4a97efPost:b088cc9d-e941-42c3-8b8b-7618d55f9ea9">Re: Alcohol at reception?</a>:
[QUOTE]  Where I'm from flashing your cash is snotty.  People will say worse things about you showing off your wealth than making them pay for a drink at a wedding.  Especially when the bride and groom are paying for the whole thing.  I really think people would understand a cash bar and if they are SO offended by it, then they can leave.[/QUOTE]

LOL- I almost fell out of my chair.  having an open bar is "flashing your cash??"  This is one of the most asinine things I have ever heard. I'm sure your wedding will be fun and enjoyable for your guests when the hostess has that kind of a mentality.

cvl105

I would be extremely turned off if I was at a wedding and there was no alchohol.  Most people will talk, and it won't be nice things.

ecsmiles

I'd also be really upset if I went to a wedding and it was a cash bar.  All the weddings I've been to in the past couple of years have been out of town - even if its just a couple hour drive.  Anyway, between the costs of traveling to your wedding, the hotel, and the gifts, things add up.  The bride and groom hosting a reception, providing food and alcohol, is always something that should be done to be a good host.

There is always a way to make it work without charging your guests.  Even just a limited bar of wine and beer is fine, and often times you can even supply your own which makes it much less expensive.

To me, its just very important that you think of your guests.  Blowing off their feelings, saying that you don't care if they get upset and leave, is very disrespectful and if thats the case then don't invite them.  At the very least, you'll have a much smaller guest list and can thus afford the booze

AlmostMrs.Munoz

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_alcohol-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:ba5e55d3-ac8d-4453-a9bf-8a6eeb4a97efPost:793ddb84-ead5-4851-852e-1cba22f806e9">Re: Alcohol at reception?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Alcohol at reception? : A cash bar is rude, regardless. Either have booze or don't.  Being rude to your guests isn't the solution and doesn't solve your problems. 
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]


I don't think it is rude to have a cash bar, especially given OPs situation in which there are questionable guests that probably should have complete access to alcohol. This provides the abilty for other guests who want alcohol and can handle their alcohol the option to have some, while keeping some guests access to it somewhat contained by their own pocketbook.  

It's your day do what you want, and don't listen to people that think you are going to rude doing something or not. I think it is more rude to tell people what to do! Do what makes you happy and what fits your situation! Good Luck!