vent: So undecided...LONG

ginaherman6

As some of you read a while back, I had some drama with my Bridal Shower and some friends RSVP'd and did not show up. Well I decided not to invite her to my wedding and declined to respond to hers (as a reminder her wedding is one month prior to mine, her shower ((which I attended)) was one week prior to mine and she failed to show to mine using the excuse that her work called her in early).  Anyway, I'm starting to feel really guilty about it. There's not much I can do at this point, but I don't know whether to take the high road or follow her suit and be snotty on Facebook - she's starting to send snide comments like how she would book but she wasn't invited... I so badly want to reply that I would have invited her, but don't want to waste $100/head and her not show up. WWY girls do?

brian&shelli

Wow! She actually has been making rude comments like that on FB?!? Personally, I'd be the bigger person... I wouldn't respond to her comments at all. That's just me though. And I also agree with you that I wouldn't want to pay $100 per person for her and a guest when she probably won't show up. As I said, this is me, personally and how I feel. Good luck Gina and I hope it all works out for the best!! Honestly, you don't need this extra stress to deal with right now, so just follow your heart and don't let it bother you anymore!

MzelleRicaine

Oooh, that's a tough call indeed. Mercury is still in retrograde, so communication is atypically hard as-is right now. Our instinct, our thirsting tempation is to make caddy (catty?) remarks. And sometimes it feels gooooooood in the short-term. Usually in the long-term it doesnt.That said, nothing's stopping you from telling her why you're being passive-agressive. Although that does undermine the passive-agressive part, it also gives this clearly clueless chick a clue.HTH!*m*

suzannepdc

I agree with Shellli. I know it's hard, but I would just totally ignore it. She's trying to get a rise out of you and as PP said, in the short term, it feels great, but usually not so in the long term. If you think she warrants an explanation, I would tell her, in as a non-accusatory way as possible.  But I don't think you owe that to her, but it may help you guilt!

drm6285

Great advice has already been given in all pp.  I think it will only cause you more hate if you choose to be petty.  Just ignore her.  If she continues to be a biatch, kindly tell her the reason you're upset and move on.  Don't let her get you down, you're better than that and don't need that drama in your life!

smilz4milz

My shower was last weekend.  I had 7 no replies and 4 no shows (that had replied that they'd be there).  1 was my FMIL and 1 was FGMIL (I might have made that one up - Future Grandma In-Law).  They sent me a bridal shower card in the mail the day prior and that's how I figured-out they weren't coming.  (FMIL unexpectedly had to work late the night before).I guess I just can't imagine being mad enough to not invite someone to my wedding who I felt was important enough to spend time with me at my shower.  But, if you just flat-out don't like her anymore that's another story.I also am NOT paying $100 per head per guest though.  GL!  Because FB snideness would suck!