Wording Question

amandaorgan

Ok, invites just got in and I had a question about how to word the addressing on them.  We are having an adult only reception, and it says so on the reception insert on the invitation. 

Children are welcomed at the ceremony. In fact I would love to see all of the kids there!  I just don't know how to word the invites.  

Can I mail them to Mr and Mrs and Family? Or should they just be mailed to Mr. and Mrs. to avoid confusion?

LDubHawksFan

I don't think you should invite the kids to the ceremony and then expect the parents to ditch them somewhere/with someone after.  I think you should simply address them only to the parents and hopefully see the kids another time.....or invite all the kids to both.

Simply_Caitlin

Definitely do not put "and family" unless the family as a whole is invited to the reception.

Expect a lot of people to bring children to the reception if you're making it known they're welcome at the ceremony.

brainybrunette

I really don't like the phrase "Adult Only Reception".  If you address your invitation to Mr. and Mrs. Smith, they should know that their kids are not invited (If they were invited, the inner envelope would read Mr. and Mrs. Smith, Jack and Jill...or The Smith Family on the outer envelope).

The only way to spread the information that children are not invited to the reception is to do the above, and if someone RSVPs with their kids to politely tell them that children are not invited.

I would spread by word of mouth that children are welcome at the ceremony but that they are not invited to the reception.

EDIT:  I also think that it's a bit rude to tell people that it's ok to bring the kids to the ceremony but not to the reception.  What are people supposed to do with their kids in between.  I say it's one or the other...either no kids at anything or kids are invited to everything.  

ericaandtom2012

Putting adults only on your invitations was incorrect, but that ship has sailed.  The invitation is for the entire event (ceremony and reception), so address the invitation to the people you are inviting to the entire event, ie the parents.  

amandaorgan

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_wording-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:310b1a22-ac51-43a5-8f67-1669c1720a06Post:2ef73485-ed64-4a36-93b1-43ffd546d000">Re: Wording Question</a>:
[QUOTE]Putting adults only on your invitations was incorrect, but<strong> that ship has sailed. </strong> The invitation is for the entire event (ceremony and reception), so address the invitation to the people you are inviting to the entire event, ie the parents.  
Posted by ericaandtom2012[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, I know that putting "Adults Only Reception" was not the most etiquitte-friendly action.  Oh well, I knew that when I did it and for admitily selfish reasons I did it anyway! And as you said that ship sailed! </div><div>
</div><div>Thanks for the advice ladies, I will make sure they are addressed just to the Mr and Mrs. X!!</div>

halij52002

I put adult reception on my reception insert. Do I care if its "etiquette" or not? Hell no! To answer your question.... I think you should put Mr. & Mrs. X.