Bridal Shower Vent - Kinda long

Kristin668

So my bridesmaids had my bridal shower this past Sunday! I knew the date, but no other details like the time, place, theme, etc. They did an amazing job putting everything together for me. The girls and FI's mom got there early to do setup, and they gave my mom the task of picking me up.

FI was in the loop with my sister (MOH) and both our moms, so he knew timing of everything, etc. but of course would not tell me anything besides just be ready on Sunday by 11:30. He didn't want to tell me what time my shower was actually starting (bless his heart) besides just telling me to be ready bc he knew I would start stressing out if my Mom was late or anything.

Well, my shower was at 12, everyone got there early/ontime, and my Mom didn't pick me up until almost 12 (the place was about 45 min away from my house) so I was almost an hour LATE to my shower. I had no idea of the timing since FI didn't want to stress me out, and didn't realize until we were getting phone calls in the car from my sister wondering where the heck we were! (sidenote my mom is late for everything, and pays no attention to time, and then always gets to my house for wedding appts late, etc and then continues to blab when she gets there) I thought for something like the shower, she would make sure to be there on time to pick me up just this once!

At the end of the day, my shower was wonderful and all, but I was, and still am kinda bummed that about 35 ppl were waiting almost an hour for me to get there and couldn't eat or anything. So, as soon as I got there, I had to basically quickly go around and rush to say hello and then hurry up and eat so we could open gifts. I'm upset that I had no "mingle" time with anyone, besides saying hello, and thank you so much for coming. = (

I feel like I want to say something to my Mom, but don't want to cause a fight at the same time! Ugh sorry for the long vent.

violakat03

Your mom sounds EXACTLY like my mom. We tell her to be somewhere 30-45 minutes before she actually needs to be there, and sometimes that gets her there on time. Miraculously, she was ready for my shower Saturday on time!! She's also a talker. I've learned to just not take her to important stuff, as mean as that sounds.

LDubHawksFan

For my shower, I was about 15 mins late and I felt terrible.  It was because my dress came in and the only time they could get me in was 1.5 hrs before the shower (DSM is an hr away from home).  I knew it would be cutting it close, and we would have been fine, but we got stuck by police blocking all the entrance ramps to the interstate because Obama was in DSM that day. 
That sucks for your guests, and there isn't much you can do now.  I would probably say something to your mom next time you see your mom about how it upset you about being so late, but I don't think it's worth a fight.  Also, if she is helping you your wedding day, tell her to get there 30 mins early!

jessiflower

mu photographer instructed me to tell eveyone a 15 minute before the actual time "fake time".  Said hair and makeup ALWAYS run over what they think it will run and to allow an hour between hair and makeup and photos and still tell eveyone 15 minutes earlier than were supposed to actually be there....I thought it was great advise...as everyone in my family sounds just like your mother....except the few who are always 1/2 hour early to everything....lol...makes it hard to plan for lots of people....sounds like it was good anyway.....let it go...i'm sure no one blames you...

violakat03

Yeah, like Jessi said, just let it go. I doubt anyone blames you .. if they're close to you (which I'm sure they were if they were at your shower) then they know how your mom is since she's likely been that way your whole life. When I was younger people always made fun of me for being late everywhere, but in adulthood they've figured out that it wasn't my fault - my mom always made me late. So now it's almost become a joke about how late my mom is going to be, and if I'm with her then they know it wasn't me that caused it.

AEPerpete

I dont think you should feel bad, not your fault at all, but whoever put your mom in charge of getting you there made a mistake.

fishinflagrl

That sounds exactly like my mom too. I told her she is most likely going to be late to her first daughters wedding = mine!!!! I am glad it ended up being wonderful. I am nervous b/c my girls are keeping everything away from me. They told me the date to make sure it is okay with me...and I just got the time to be ready yesterday (Shower is Saturday). They wont tell me who is picking me up nothing. Just to be out of the door by 12:30p. Wow!! I hope my shower is as great as yours and im not late!!