FI had warned me long before I met her that his SIL was a complete b!tch, but I didn't really take it to heart...until recently. I cannot understand what is wrong with her that makes her act so obnoxiously! We were over at their house for a belated birthday party for her eldest daughter/ mother's day get together and she screamed at everyone. She even made my FMIL cry- on mother's day- because she said that her daughter's acting out was all her fault. FMIL had done nothing but give her grandkids love and hugs, and she is honestly the sweetest woman ever. To do that at all is horrendous, to do it on Mother's day is unfathomable.
FI had asked his brother if he would be okay with his daughters being our flowergirls, and his brother and SIL said yes. This was back in November. They knew the date, they knew the dress, they knew the store, and they knew the exact cost because I had been exceedingly careful in getting all the details and making sure they would be okay with it all before they made a decision. Then, I emailed SIL in March to just remind her of those details, making sure that it was all still ok and she said yes. Then I emailed her to let her know that the order by date was fast approaching and that other girls had all ordered and that the color was being discontinued. She sends back this overly sarcastic email stating how she's soooo glad that we all have so much time on our hands that we could all get in and get ordered, but she's sooo busy that she's just not going to even try until August because she has no plans to do alterations.
I know I'm not wording it in such a way that really conveys how bad her email was. But I even had FI read it without my saying anythng about it and he, the most mellow and level-headed guy I've ever met, even said "Wow! What a b!tch!".
I would love to be able to buy the dresses for them, but we can't afford it, even though they're definitely at the cheaper end of the scale at $95.46/ per w/tax. And they live on the other side of the state, so it's not like we can take the girls in to get measured ourselves. I made it clear to FI that I will absolutely not be communicating with her again, no matter what. That kind of passive hostility towards someone she barely knows is so uncalled for, especially when I've been nothing but polite and patient. I almost want to say to her "F you, forget about it then", but that wouldn't be fair to their daughters who are really looking forward to it. It'll be a damned shame if she can't get her act together and let them participate, but at least they'll still be there on the day- flowergirls or not.
I wish I could justify her nastiness, but I can't. She's a teacher, but so is my mom and my sister and my dad before he retired. I get it. They can be really busy. But the year ends next week. Surely she could get them in end of June or early July. To say she's not even going to TRY until August baffles me. And I wish I could say it's the cost that's the hang up, but even that doesn't make sense. The woman just had a breast reduction and a tummy tuck because she felt like it-- not needed it. They ordered two huge bouncy castles for her daughter's birthday. Either they're really irresponsible with money, or they have plenty. Even if they had set aside $5 a week since we asked them in November, they'd have more than enough now.
Arg!!!
Sorry. I just really needed to get this out. Thanks for reading through that mess
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