-Those of you who are getting no help financially from others to pay for the wedding are you giving your parents gifts? Or is that as a thank you for helping fund the wedding?
-Did you send actual invites to your vendors for rehearsal dinner/reception or just email/call them and ask if and how many were coming?
-Are you giving your vendors monetary tips or something else? (ie for every meeting I met my officiant at scooters so thought gc would be better)
-For those of you who do not have attendants who is "in charge" of making sure the vendors get their money?
-for those of you who wrote your own vows but didnt memorize them what are you writing them on to read them at the wedding?
I'm sure I will have more but TIA for the help!

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Re: questions
I made an electronic invitation to the RD for our WP. We are not having any outside vendors.
Our vendors all own their own businesses. In the case of our limo, the gratuity was built into the contract, same with our venue. Fortunately we will not need to give out any cash tips. We will just need to give the DJ his final payment at the wedding, my sister (MOH) will be taking care of that.
We didn't write our own vows, so I can't be much help there.
2- we didnt send invites to our vendors, they have all the details, that is a waste of $
3- tipping DJ and mait're d, everyone else owns their own business so not tipping them- and yes monetary gifts except for our pianist and singer/violinist we are giving them either a GC or coach wristlet (the singer is our friend)
4- we have GM so i am having my brother in law pay for the tolls for the limo company and tip the DJ; you could have parents do it or a close friend that you trust
5- sorry cant help on the vows but im sure index cards are fine
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I gave my MOH and BM a small gift and something for the flower girls, and ring bearer... up to him if he is going to get him GM anything....
We are paying for the wedding on our own
All our vendors etc, have their own buisnesses so we are not tipping... might give my photographer might get a bit but that is cause I am rounding the total up to an even number...
Our Dj is doing it as a favor, so we are going to get him a little something or a GC... not sure yet... less than 2 weeks to decide LOL that is FI's JOB!!! lol
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2. We are not having a RD but you don't have to invite your vendors to the RD either. The only one that you might invite is the officiant.
3. I don't plan on giving tips to anyone except maybe our coordinator at the venue.
4. We are having a BP but we are "in charge" of paying the vendors. That is no one else's responsibility especially since we are paying for everything.
5. We are not writing our own vows.
2. I emailed them asking their food choice. I did sent an invite to the pastor for the wedding since he's a family friend, and we invited his wife. No RD invites, just emails.
3. I'm tipping the bartenders, and I'm giving pastor a TY card with a check. He's went above and beyond for us, and we got a lot out of our sessions. The rest of the vendors owe their business so tips aren't expected.
4. supposely the BM is in charge, but I might let my parents do it.
5. No vows... just following the pastor's lead.
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2.we did not send an invite to our DJ but did for our photographer because she and her partner are eating during dinner. we aren't doing a RD so didn't send invites to anyone.
3. i don't plan on "tipping" the vendors becuase it seems kind of unessacary.
4. i'm paying all my vedors in advance of the wedding day.
5. i'm probably just writng them on a piece of paper and having one of my BMs hold it until I'm ready.
77 Said Yes!!
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[QUOTE]-Those of you who are getting no help financially from others to pay for the wedding are you giving your parents gifts? Or is that as a thank you for helping fund the wedding? -Did you send actual invites to your vendors for rehearsal dinner/reception or just email/call them and ask if and how many were coming? -Are you giving your vendors monetary tips or something else? (ie for every meeting I met my officiant at scooters so thought gc would be better) -For those of you who do not have attendants who is "in charge" of making sure the vendors get their money? -for those of you who wrote your own vows but didnt memorize them what are you writing them on to read them at the wedding? I'm sure I will have more but TIA for the help!
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1) I think the parents' gifts are for their love & support over the years. I will probably do something small, a letter to them, and then photo albums after.
2) I believe FMIL is making invites for them too.
3) I haven't thought of it, but I wouldn't make our BP pay people. It will either be us or the DOC.
4) We are having our vows written down and we will read them to one another. This is what our pastor said is normal.