Almost a Bridezilla?

kjerl

I called my father last night just to see if they had any idea of when they would be getting into town or where they would be staying for our wedding. I know we still have four months, but we are having a DW, so everyone has to travel and I know how the summer is going  to fly by.

And then I got the surprise that made me feel like a bridezilla. They would arrive Thursday by lunch time. Our wedding, btw, is Friday. I guess I just had expected (or hoped) that they would get into town a little earlier to help with last minute running around and setting up.

I live about 10 hours away from my parents, so maybe that is part of the reason I feel the way I do. I just feel, well, abandonded. My parent's have still not met my finance's family, nor have been involved in really any aspect of the planning.

I've read so many posts about over bearing moms and FMILs...maybe I should just count my blessings and be happy no one is giving me an opinion or suggestion on the details.

Any one else dealing with what feels like a lack of interest from their parents?

LDubHawksFan

I was kind of upset with my mom yesterday for a similar reason.  I had asked if her restaurant would be up and running (it had burned last month), for the bridal shower that my BM's are hosting, and I was surprised that she wasn't planning on helping them at all.  She said it's usually the BM responsibility, but in my mind I was thinking, but yeah usually the parents of the bride not only help more financially (I don't care that we are paying for a large part of our wedding), but also with the planning.  Granted, I chose to get married where I moved to, but I feel alone with the planning too.  It's frustrating!
I'm sorry your parents aren't coming sooner.  Is there any way that they can?  I thought our rehearsal might have to be on Thursday if there was a Friday wedding, so actually requested that my mom and brothers try to be there by mid afternoon on Thursday.  Now I will have a day with my family, which it sounds like is what you want.  btw, I don't think this is Bridezilla-ish.  I'm sure they don't mean for it to upset you and probably don't realize how overwhelmed/alone you feel with planning your big day and how their presence would help.  It might be worth just expressing that to them.  Unless they've booked flights, then maybe they will try to catch an earlier flight or something.  Chin up! 

minionlover

I feel ya. Sometimes we have to remember that old quote "other people aren't going to be as excited as you are". My parents aren't very excited about my upcoming wedding. I think that it's because this is my second wedding and they feel that I was married to mr. perfect before. They do help out when they go to FL with checking places out and stuff but whenever I bring something up about the wedding while around them they try to change the subject. I am used to it by now but every once in a while I get annoyed.