QOTD 7/31

minionlover

What would you do if you found out you were pregnant right now?

Simply_Caitlin

Probably cry haha.  I'm already such a ball of stress over this wedding, I don't think I could mentally handle that right now.  We don't plan on waiting long after the wedding, but we definitely need to hold out 75 more days haha.

ktelizabeth86

I would be a little shocked since I'm on BC, but I would be really excited . . . except I don't know what I would do about my wedding dress. I can't stand to gain a pound in that thing! So for that reason alone, I hope it doesn't happen until after the wedding.

amandaorgan

I've actually talked about it with FI and we are in a place where we would be happy to welcome a baby.  Sure, it would be a HUGE suprise, but that is just how life is sometimes!  

Obviously, depending on how far along I was would make a difference regarding my wedding a little.  For example, if I found out today that I was like 3 or 4 weeks preggo, I probably wouldnt even have to get a new dress or anything.  

But if I was to be further along with a pregnancy, I think the only thing that would change would be my dress.  I would probably proceed with all plans the same.  Still marrying my best friend of nearly a decade, so why would starting a family change any of the great plans we have already invested in?

What do you ladies think? Would you change anything about your big day, or go on as planned?

achiduck

I would be incredibly shocked since I'm on the pill and it's worked fine for the last 2 years of our relationship. We'd probably be a bit freaked for a few weeks but would ultimatley be happy about it.

The wedding would proceed as planned. It would be a good thing my dress is a corset back through!

jessiflower

I have two and he has one...together we share a 15 year old boy, 13 year old girl and 8 year old girl....our families have meshed together since day 1 and we all get along so well....we are OVER the baby having and my tubes are tied....so needless to say it would be a shock!  I love seeing so many people on here excited for the thought of it tho! 

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We are not having kids so I would be very very upset

hllokttygirl

I would be so,so happy.i would just go ahead with the wedding plans and hope I didn't feel horrible that day.

PetalPockets2012

I don't know for sure. I know I would cry and be surprised since I have an IUD. I think I would be in shock for quite awhile.

xxjen015

We would cry. We would like kids, but not for three more years or so. We are not financially where we could support a child right now, so it would be hard, because we definitely would keep it. I know we would have support from family and friends, but just for us, it's not time. In terms of the wedding, we'd have to just get a new dress for me.

lehc723

Freak out. We're not ready to deal with kids for quite some time. I can't quite wrap my head around what we'd do in that situation, and are being as safe as can be to make sure we're not.

schnugglebug

we would be happy and excited... but would be bad timing... the dress would not fit LMAO! and can't be let out much haha...

we are aiming to start trying in October though

mpjf1001

Hmm i would be shocked, cry and be happy all at the same time!
We want kids right away but idk if i could deal with the rumors of "she was pregnant before they got married" not that i care, whats the difference b/t now and 2 months from now...if it happened a week before the wedding then i would welcome it!
plus there is no room in my dress for a baby bump, lol

goatlady12

I actually had a scare last month and had a complete melt down.  Luckily it was just because I switched brands of BC.  Not ready for kids!

DanaOcNy

I would be in shock but ultimately be over the moon.  We start house hunting next month and want to secure a home first before we start our family, currently living with my FIL's.   We plan on hopefully trying next summer :-) 

kimm260

I would be fine with it - FI would be more upset he doesn't want to get pregnant before we get married- old fashioned LOL!  We will probably start TTC shortly after the wedding.

As far as change of plans for the wedding not much would change except I wouldn't drink alcohol! 

lv2011

We'd be thrilled! We're hoping to concieve soon anyway. I don't think it would interrupt any wedding plans at this point.

mlperkins12

We are not planning to have children so I would be pretty devastated.  I think that FI would be fine, maybe even happy.  The decision not to have children is more mine than his, he would have been fine either way, but since I was so opposed to it for me personally, he did not have a problem with my decision.  FI is 36 so we had many in depth conversations about this early on in our relationship. The whole concept of timing and our ages (I'm 31) were something that we discussed from a lifestyle standpoint as well as a medical standpoint.

ivedonethisb4

While we both want a baby pretty soon, before the wedding is out of the question for me. We had a scare last month but we're good. I only got my period for like a day and a half! This month was back to normal...stress I guess!? The biggest problem as far as the wedding is I would HAVE to buy a new dress and its not in the budget. My dress is already too small and I'm trying to lose to get into it in time for the big day. I love my dress and don't want to give it up. Also financially we don't want to take it on yet. We're trying to buy a house and I have a lot of medical bills we are trying to take care of first. They haven't even billed me for the 9,000 dollar one yet according to the lady I spoke with yesterday! Once that is done we should be okay so I think after the wedding we'll start trying pretty soon.

mrshall1027

FI has two daughters from a previous marriage and we have them half of the time.  It can be a little stressful at times and makes me realize that I am not ready for kids full time.  I'd like to wait another two or three years.

If it were to happen, we would probably freak out in the beginning, but then I'm sure we would get really happy and excited, especially if it was a boy.  FI is desperate to have a boy!

ericaandtom2012

I would be shocked and I'm sure freaking out would ensue.  I'm on the pill and we always use condoms because we do not want kids right now; we want to have fun together and take a few more trips before we start trying to have kids.  I'm not sure what I would do; there would be some long, in depth conversations between us to decide what we would do. 

jenny&will2014

I would be super happy yet worried and shocked at the same time. (my son from previous marriage is 9 so I don't really want to start all over again but fiance is fixed so it would be quite the shock and I did want two children)

ReyesToy

I would be ecstatic! We were going to start trying around the holidays anyway. Also, now would be a good time to find out before alterations start on my dress!

Poppy101212

I would be thrilled, after I got over the initial shock. We may move our honeymoon location, since all inclusive would suck a little.

islandmonkey8

Shock, surprise, worry, and happiness I think.

Dress is mermaid but corseted, so I think I'd be ok being only 3 months along by then.

However, FI & I want to make sure we close on and settle into our house before trying. We plan on trying come Christmas time, but we've been together almost 8 years so we're just about as ready as we can be. Again, once we're settled in at the house and the wedding stress is over it'll be time. We'd be happy now, but happIER later. 

snuff9861

I don't know. I mean we want kids, but we just arent at a place where it makes sense to have one. I'm in school and they do not allow visibly pregnant women to go to placement for safety reasons. 

tamrahelmer

First of all I would be shocked. I have been on the pill for the 3 years we've been together and its worked so far! We aren't planning on having kids.

mbuckley85

I would cry and be shocked (I am on the patch and we always use condoms).  After the initial shock, I would be over the moon, and I'm sure FI would be too.  We do want a baby very badly, but we are both old fashioned and would not like me to be pregnant on the wedding day.  

We plan to start trying around March, but we are definitely going to stop using the condoms after the wedding.  If it happened while I was on the patch after the wedding, I would still be shocked, but thrilled.

I think my dress would be okay as long as I was in the first 2-3 months.  Its a corset back so there is room in how tight you tie the corset and even with my large chest, there is room for growth there.  

Stina2012

I would be super happy. FI would probably check all my BC to see what happened.

It seems like all of my friends are having babies this year (5 total and one of those was twins!). It also seems like everyone's getting married this year (5 weddings before mine). I swear, I think my entire social calendar is me getting dressed up to give someone else a present!

lepoissonrouge

I would be pretty surprised... and rather confused. As FI and I aren't even having sex, LOL.
 
If we were tho, I would be pretty concerned and stressed if I ended up pregnant. I graduate nursing school in April and really do not have time for a baby right now (or anytime in the near future). We really want kids but we are both still young and have a lot of ther things we want to do before we add kids to the mix.

BrittneyRN

I would be very upset. FI and I don't want kids for another 5 or 6 years. And I'm traditional, and don't want kids before marriage. (I'm definitely not saying there's anything wrong with that though). I have nightmares about taking care of a child right now. FI and I could finically handle one, but we want to save up a large down payment for a house, go on nice vacations, buy a truck, and enjoy each other.