Fiance's Bachelor Party

MegNew03 · September 2012

Hello,

My brother just asked me if he could bring two of his friends to my fiance's bachelor party. My brother said he think the more the merrier but I think my fiance might be hurt that my brother is inviting guys he doesn't even know to his bachelor party. Plus I think my fiance thinks he won't really be able to bond with my brother if my brother has his own friends there. I don't know what to say to my brother! Any opinions would be greatly appreciated! I don't want to be in the middle of it and I want everybody to be happy!

nitecheese · September 2012

I would tell him to keep it limited to friends/family of your FI. If it were just a boys' night out, that would be one thing, but it is your FI's party.

jessiflower · September 2012

maybe let him know subtly that FI wants to get to know brother more and wants to take this occasion as an opportunity to do so....maybe brother wants FI to get to know him and his two best friends...could be a match made in heaven....lol...thats a hard one....just let the cards fall how they may...it will all turn out fine...maybe stay out of it........lol....Im not really much help am I...sorry.....

Heath66 · September 2012

Technically people who aren't invited to the wedding should not be invited to the bachelor party. I would tell him that and say that you are uncomfortable breaking etiquette rules like that.

Alisha9544 · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_fiances-bachelor-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:e97dc9e4-9dcd-4f07-bd77-c465146b6b79Post:e3be9a68-b64c-4ad3-8a98-38bd9e1703a1">Re: Fiance's Bachelor Party</a>:
[QUOTE]Technically people who aren't invited to the wedding should not be invited to the bachelor party. I would tell him that and say that you are uncomfortable breaking etiquette rules like that.
Posted by Heath66[/QUOTE]
Agreed, I got on FI for inviting people to his Bachelor Party & not to the wedding. The guy that did come kind of called him out on it too. Long story short +2 to the guest list

mmmendi · September 2012

I like Heath's answer - it takes any personal decision making out of the equation!

ericaandtom2012 · September 2012

This is a party for your FI, not for your brother. He probably shouldn't be meeting people, especially if he wants to get to know your brother better. And Heath is right, only people invited to the wedding should be invited to pre-wedding parties.

I think you should tell your brother no, because they're not on the wedding guest list.

minionlover · September 2012

I agree with everyone else. You need to tell you brother no. It's a party for friends and family. I would also explain the whole invite thing too.

MegNew03 · September 2012

Thanks everybody, I was worried I was the only one that felt that way! If it was just a party for fun it wouldn't be a big deal for them to come. But since my fiance only gets one bachelor party I think he should only have his closest friends and family there and not people he's never met.