No registry/No shower?

Rhea0106

If you don't do a registry, does that mean you can't have a shower? I would still love to get together with a bunch of ladies and celebrate my wedding, ya know? I could care less about getting gifts, I just want to par take in the whole wedding experience. Anyone else in the same boat? 

snuff9861

Yes if you don't have registry you're not to have a bridal shower. The whole point is to "shower" you with gifts. That being said, there's no rule that says you can't have a brunch with the ladies. Just dont call it a bridal shower or send out invitations!

Rhea0106

Thanks for the post. I appreciate it. At least now I can stop wondering. The brunch sounds nice.

udream05

ya I would definitely agree.. do a ladies luncheon instead and then you can have all the fun without the stress of the gifts/registry stuff.  And then if some of the ladies still want to give you a little something special they can but they don't have to feel required to

DanaOcNy

I think you can still have a shower (and call it a shower) even if you aren't registered anywhere.  Registry's are fairly new, I know both my mother and MIL talk about how in there days there were no registries.  If you do have a shower without a registry you will most likely get a lot of stuff you don't need since most people will feel the need to bring a present.

BrittneyRN

I think it might be weird and seem a little money grabby. I'm not saying that you are, but that's how it would seem. Like when Aunt Edna gets an invite to your shower, and asks your mom where your registered and she says no where, it's going to confused people. Like PP said, the point of a shower is to "shower" the bride with gifts. I'd either register or stick with the lunch.

SteveAndSara2005

I don't see why you can't have a shower and call it a shower, if you send out invites you can add a small note mentioning that you're not registered anywhere. Or even something like in lieu of gifts, a charitable donation would be appreciated. This way your guests feel like they've done something good,and the amount can be discreet. 

Like Dana said.. they didn't have registries a few years ago and brides still had showers!