My FI is British and lives in Engalnd with his family. I'm over for a visit and am staying with him and my FMIL - this is the first time we've ever been able to actually talk wedding. My FSIL has a friend getting married in a few months, and one night over dinner she was telling us how the bride is only putting 3 bottles of wine at each table of six(1 red, 1 white, and 1 rose) and they were completely dismayed!
At this point I started to get this feeling of dread, because I'm not having alcohol at my wedding (except for the champagne toast). The reason for this: my mother is a recovering alcoholic. Every special occasion of mine has been ruined because she got drunk. She's become a lot better lately, only drinking on special occasions - and my way of thinking is that if there isn't any alcohol for her to get drunk with, then she won't upset me on my wedding day.
I'm starting to have second thoughts, though, because of how devestated everyone seemed to be about LIMITED alcohol - am I going to make my reception less enjoyable for them by excluding it? And if so, here is my dilema - without alcohol his family is unhappy. With alcohol I run the risk of my mother getting trashed and ruining a part of my special day. I feel akward talking to FMIL about it because I hate to give a bad impression of my mother. I REALLY don't want to talk to my mother about it because she'll start to cry and ask me why I'm so ashamed of her and start calling herself a bad mother (so basically - she'll seriously overreact).