My best friend is pregnant, and due right around my wedding!!!!!

mandafite821

So, my best friend is pregnant, we just found out today.  She is like a hot minute pregnant.  She will be due sometime around March or April of next year depending on what the OB says in a few weeks.  I am getting married May 5th of next year, and she could potentially be due around then.  I don't know if I should push my wedding back or not?  We both turn 25 in the next few weeks, and we have been best friends since we were 3.  She says not to change my wedding at all, but I am very worried about her.  The drive for us to the outer banks is a 7 hour drive.  What would ya'll do?

mparwulski

I would leave it the way it is. Life happens whether it's pregnancy, or death.  Something is likely to come up between now and your wedding anyways.  At least you can kind of plan for this.  See what happens as your date gets closer.  You can come up with a contingency plan if she hasn't delivered yet.  There are hospitals everywhere.

ms_teach

I agree, I'd probably leave my date too.  Maybe she could end up with an OBX baby.   kidding, I promise...

Krhoy20

I posted on FB but will here as well.  I agree w/ PP. Leave things the way they are. Things happen, good and bad and you shouldn't change YOUR day around just for one person. I understand she is your best friend but in the end, the only people that really matter are YOU and your FI Hopefully she will be able to be there for you on your day but if not, know that she truely wanted to be.
Also, if you have already signed contracts and made deposits, you could risk losing those!!!!

dwfangirl

We had a friend tell us that she was pregnant and was due right around the wedding day and so she and her husband weren't going to come.  Of course, she is a friend, but not my best friend, so while I was disappointed, I knew the show must go on.  She ended up having her baby on our actual wedding day!  So I will always remember that little guy's birthday.    

It would have been SO much harder if it was my best friend from childhood.  I realize that you can't predict things and change your wedding date to accommodate everyone, but I also understand the heartache over this one.    

Scheff725

First of all, Congratulations to your friend!! Exciting news!!

Secondly, I am not sure which way I would go on this one! If you made the date sooner, you could risk her not being able to travel or going into early labor. But, if you moved it later, she would have an infant to travel with which is also so hard... SO tough. I would probably leave it the way it is like all the PP's have said. Unfortunately, life happens whether we want it to or not, and everything happens for a reason!

JENNIFERMCKENZIE

This exact thing happend to me.  I left things the way they were.  She had her daughter 2 days after the wedding.  You cant plan around every thing that might happen.

tcigal

Do you have any deposits down?  It'd be hard to push it later, because you're getting closer to "in season" and things will get MUCH more expensive, quickly.

Even though it's a really tough call, I recommend leaving it.  Hopefully things will be on time (or even early!) and she can make it to your wedding.  More important than her being there on your one single day, she'll be there through your entire marriage for love and support, so I'd focus on that.

RIGHT after we decided on our date, we found out my Future Brother In Law was "pregnant" and his gf's due date was exactly our wedding date!  We panicked, because it would be his family's first great-grandchild and we'd be their first grandchild's wedding (I was afraid people would have to pick)  While his mother assured us it would all work out, and she'd be at our wedding no matter what, things ended up working in our favor (though really not for FBIL....turns out the kid wasn't his, and she's due any day now...it's the guy's she was dating right before him....she certainly wasn't the winner we thought she was!!!!!!)  But anyway, case in point, sometimes things work out in a way you don't expect. 

OBX2011

I would keep things the way they are and I agree with what PP's have said as well.

If this makes you feel any better.....my co-worker was due any minute and STILL went to the VT v. Boise game at FedEx field last year....then had her baby 1 week later.  Only 5% of babies are actually born on their due date.....so the worst that could happen is that the baby comes early and she cannot make it.  I wouldn't stress this too much....it will all work out in the end honey!