I have'nt logged on in a bit, but I wanted to share and vent out a little. Unfortunately my loving grandmother passed away on the 12th of Dec. My father is still coping with the loss and these holidays were like they've never been before. But thank God we were able to be together to show support to one another during Christmas.
I need to have a conversation with my parents regarding any plans or thoughts about postponing our wedding this coming August.
It doesn't worry me to pospone it, the only thing that brings me down besides the loss of my grandma is the loss of interest towards any wedding details or plans. The joy of it all seems to be numb right now and don't kniw how long it will last.
Thanks for reading this.
Re: Bitter sweet holidays
i would proceed with your august wedding as planned. even if you take a month or two to mourn, you still have plenty of time to put things together. i think your grandma would want you to still have your joyous day, and i know she will be looking down on you that day and will be with you.
I would give it another month, and at that point I think it might be appropriate to bring it up. Maybe bring it up to your mom first. Remember, the first Christmas after someone passes away is usually very difficult, even if it's been months. They had to deal with this loss in the midst of the holiday season, which I'm sure has been very diificult.
I'm sorry for this loss, and I hope it all works out. Good luck!
I wouldn't postpone the wedding. No matter when you have it, it will be said that she's not there. And after the initial pain wears off a little, it may help your dad (and the rest of your family) to have something joyful to look forward to.
[QUOTE]Thank you so much for your kind words. I really wanted to hear some input on opinions out there. I understand that different people process mournings different. And regardless, people are going to have something to say whether it is positive or negative regarding the date of the wedding, but as long as we are okay with it then we should be okay. I will give it time to heal. Thanks. I do feel as if my grandmother would have liked for me to continue with the wedding plans. Although distance kept us apart, we were very close at heart. To answer pp, my parents are not paying for the wedding but if they would ask me to postone i would definetly do it out of respect but i like the idea our priest gave me today,<strong> to offer our wedding mass to her memory</strong> aswell. When i speak to my parents I will mention that to them and i hope they like it.
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</div><div>I think that would be beautiful!
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[QUOTE]My husband and I both have lost a parent -his father and my mother - and <span style="font-weight:bold;" class="Apple-style-span">at the beginning of the ceremony, we had his son and my niece walk up pictures of them, and place them on a table at the front of the church. </span>It isn't as fresh a loss as yours - my mother has been gone for ten years, and his dad for longer than that - but it was so special to have that physical representation of them there. Many hugs to you - let yourself grieve the loss, then feel the joy of your upcoming wedding. I think your thought that this is what your grandmother would want is probably exactly right. Linda
Posted by lmeade62[/QUOTE]
<div>This is such a beautiful gesture. I will mention it and hopefully we can do something similar. it would mean so much for my father and family. Thank you for sharing that. I think this unfortunate experience will make my "day" that much more special.</div><div>
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