Hi ladies! I'm in need of some advice...
My wedding is in a month and a half, and we are having a full Nuptial Mass with a large wedding party. One of my bridesmaids has been one of my closest friends for the past 10 years, and she is discerning which religious order she is called to join! She's excited, and I'm very happy for her!
She just told me today that she is "not sure" she'll be comfortable in the BM dress. She never said anything to me before about not feeling comfortable in the dress, but I think she spoke up because of her modesty & humility... she doesn't want to spoil my wedding day by being picky about her clothes, but I also think she genuinely desires to dress more modestly.
We picked out the dress in January and she paid for it on her own. Here's the dress we picked out: http://barijay.com/style.php?style=917. I didn't think they were immodest, especially since the top can be tied as high as needed. The dress designer, Bari Jay, has a terrible selection of chiffon jackets/shawls, and I don't think any other fabric would match the dress. The color is 'eggplant'--an impossible color to match to any other designer.
She just never spoke up before now! I'm just stumped about what to do. I want her to feel comfortable, but I don't know how to go about making her dress more modest... especially in the little time we have remaining before the wedding!! Any suggestions?
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Your wedding is in a month an a half? I really don't know what you can do for her, pashmina possibly?
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Im also a D cup and just now i was in near tears trying to find a bra at VSC that would work. nothing held me up.
see if you can find a nice wrap or bolero for her. she'd appreciate it - i know i would.
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[QUOTE]the dress i have to wear for a wedding next month has a similar styled halter top. as someone who is extremely modest, i feel very uncomfortable wearing the dress. this dress was also a compromise - she originally wanted us in strapless, but i told her that i could not wear a strapless in a church. given the designer she insisted on going with, there were virtually no choices if one didnt want strapless other than this one and one that had a tank top with a weird empire waist (the maternity friendly gown) .while the girls in my BM dress are a bit more covered than in the dress you have picked out, my shoulders and back are very exposed. so, i can completley see where she is coming from. Im also a D cup and just now i was in near tears trying to find a bra at VSC that would work. nothing held me up. see if you can find a nice wrap or bolero for her. she'd appreciate it - i know i would.
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</div><div>Try going to a specialty bra place. They are simply amazing!! It will be more expensive than VS, but the quality will be so much better, too. The place I went even altered the bra for me for my wedding, so it was perfect for the dress & for me.
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My friend had a girl who was a postulant with the sisters of life in her wedding party. She wore her jumper habit with a long sleeve shirt (turtleneck? don't remember).
I know my only requirements are grey and appropriate for church. (I care more about modesty than the church, so I trusted these women to make good choices, and they have.)
OP -- I think you got some great advice and would agree with some kind of pashmina or shawl or covering. I got a pashmina at my sister's fall wedding and pretty much lived in it all winter, meaning it was a great gift!
My other recommendation would be to find a seamstress who might be able to match the chiffon and sew a "top" that integrates with the dress style and suits your bridesmaid's sense of modesty! I did that with my strapless wedding dress and was very happy with the results.
Waiting to meet the baby broccoli on 5/5/2013!
I'm thinking either a pashmina or using the extra fabric from the length for a shawl will work the best for the time crunch we're in. My BM is on a retreat this weekend but I'm excited to talk to her about all your ideas!! Thanks again!!
[QUOTE]That's a beautiful dress and I don't think it's immodest but I'm not your BM trying to decide. Your wedding is in a month an a half? I really don't know what you can do for her, pashmina possibly?
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Even when she's in a religious order, a pashmina is always nice to have. You can pull it over yourself when taking a nap, on a plane, bus or train trip if it's cold.
I even took a couple to the hosptial in January when I had surgery because it was just so much nicer and warmer than a hospital blanket.