Not for me actually.. well sort of.
If anyone saw my post last week about my dad on the Snarky Brides wall, this is the same situation. You may skip to the bottom. But I just feel so lost as to what to do.
Long story short, my dad has always physically provided for us (clothes, food, house) but has always been very hard on us too. Almost too hard. He'd yell at us for nothing and get very intimidating at times.
Fast forward to me leaving the house. My parents were in a financial bind, and as my dad is a freelance website developer, his income is not steady. They needed money so I took $1000 out of my savings to help them, all the while he insisted I'd get it back the following week because he was expecting a check.
I didn't get that money back, and stupid me has lent him more money while he slowly whittles it away, never having it at zero. Early junior year of college I had enough and told him that, while I loved him, I could not lend them any more money. He got very upset with me and called me selfish, but I didn't budge.
We were okay for awhile, then about a year later, I learned that my grandma had set aside $2000 for each of us grandkids to have on our college graduations to help us start our lives. Dad cashed in on it early telling her that I needed it to pay my college bill (which was a lie) so she wrote him the check. I found out about it and he and I had a huge blowout.
It was right around that time my mom decided to leave him, which I am very proud of her for (she was miserable for 10 years.. they tried counseling but he refused to communicate with her or listen to what she was feeling).
I decided to sit my dad down and tell him how worried I was about him stealing my money and his spending habits in general, because I heard he was planning a trip for a few months later to go visit my brother in Europe. I told him my feelings and really opened up to him, while he more or less told me to "prove" my feelings. He apologized for taking the money however and promised me he'd have it to me when I graduted.
I graduated 3 weeks ago. Still haven't seen that money because he claims he's broke. Might I mention in the past 5 months he did take that trip to Europe, threw himself a massive 50th birthday party and bought a 55" TV and bose system?
I went home last weekend to visit for Father's Day and the electricity had been turned off!
He's been dating a huge slew of women as well and is in danger of getting the house and car taken away. All he does is make excuses about everything.
I don't care about my money anymore, I'm just worried about him. And our relationship. I'm getting married in a year and this man has done nothing but hurt me for a long time. I have a hard time even imagining him walk me down the aisle or our Father/Daughter dance.
Sorry this was long. I'm just hoping you guys can say a few extra prayers for me and my dad. It just hit me like a ton of bricks todayn that I'm getting married in a year and I am so bitter towards him still.... I want to fix it, but my dad is such a proud man that he will not help me fix something that he doesn't think is broken.