Tuesday questions?? Random convo??

Resa77

Anyone have any questions?  I can't really think of any.  I'm just excited for this week to be OVER!   FI has been out of town, and I really miss him.  Plus, Friday is my friend's wedding, and I'm very excited for that

chelseamb11

I am so excited for this week to be over as well. Gee I wonder why
Tomorrow is my last day of work as an unmarried woman.  I can't wait to be done with work and finish up the wedding prep!!!

professorscience

How exciting, Chelsea!  Can't wait to see pics!

I have been really bad with the questions.  My brain just doesn't function the way it should when school is out.  =(

Here's a few:

If money was not an object, where would you want to travel tomorrow?  Why?

How many children do you hope to have?

What's something you hope to accomplish by your next "milestone" birthday (I usually consider these the multiples of 5 -- 30, 35, etc... even 25 for some of you!)?

Resa77

I bet you're excited   I can't wait to see pictures! 

chelseamb11

If money was not an object, where would you want to travel tomorrow?  Why?
All over Europe for several months.

How many children do you hope to have?
Eeh Fi and I have always said 2, but I have a feeling we'll want a 3rd when that time comes. But ultimately it's up to the big man upstairs

What's something you hope to accomplish by your next "milestone" birthday (I usually consider these the multiples of 5 -- 30, 35, etc... even 25 for some of you!)?
Well I will be 25 in a year and a half.  By thenn I hope that FI and I have bought a house. And hopefully be at least TTC

bibliophile2010

Chels -- enjoy every minute of this week. It will fly, I'm telling you. I'm sure you're tired of all of us old hags harping on it, but it's true!

I'm feeling a lot better today, but took the day off work to not overdo it. I am coughing way less, so hopefully, I'm on the road to recovery. This is a WOW week for me, too. As of Friday I will be (according) to the doctor "full term." Not that the baby is really, really ready, but after that point, all major development is complete (mostly just growing and lung strengthening) and babies will generally be fine with no other intervention (unless there are other inherent complications). As a result, if the baby comes, she comes. That's scary and exciting all at the same time!

Resa77

Oooh, yay professor!!! 

If money was not an object, where would you want to travel tomorrow?  Why?

I would probably go to Italy, and particularly Rome.  And that is mostly because of food, I will be perfectly honest lol.  I would also really like to go to India, or somewhere Asian, because the culture is so different than what I'm used to here, so it would be a really neat experience. 

How many children do you hope to have?
I'm a decide-as-you-go kinda girl.  At least two, but prob 4.  I'm not shut off from the idea of having more, though.  I'm not a parent, nor do I know what my job situation or financial situation will be in the future, so I just don't want to get too attached to a number, you know?

What's something you hope to accomplish by your next "milestone" birthday (I usually consider these the multiples of 5 -- 30, 35, etc... even 25 for some of you!)?
My next "milestone" will be 30, and by then I would like to have a child.  And a house.

erin5286

Yay for weddings!  Chelsea - I'm so excited for you!

If money was not an object, where would you want to travel tomorrow?  Why?

If I have to pick only one place - Rome.  FI and I both really want to go there, FI says he can't truly call himself an architect until he travels to Rome to see all the buildings.  I would honestly love to go on a tour of Europe and see EVERYTHING, I'm a total sucker for historical things. 

How many children do you hope to have?

3-4.  FI and I each came from bigger families (his is 5 kids, all boys, mine is 6 kids, 4 girls/2 boys) so we feel like one or two just isn't enough!  We both want to have at least one boy and one girl, but would ultimately like at least three kids overall.  Since we want at least one of each boy/girl, we've decided that if we end up with three boys or three girls, we'd try one more time just to see what happens.  If we end up with all four the same gender, then that's OK!

What's something you hope to accomplish by your next "milestone" birthday (I usually consider these the multiples of 5 -- 30, 35, etc... even 25 for some of you!)?
My next milestone would be age 30, and by then I'd like to have moved out of our condo into a home with a yard for our doggies and a patio for grilling!  I'd also like to have at least one baby in my arms by then - see above, if I want to have 3-4, and don't want to be too far past 35 when having babies, I better start soon(ish)

professorscience

If money was not an object, where would you want to travel tomorrow?  Why? Italy.  Particularly the northern area.  My grandmother came to the US from there.

How many children do you hope to have? Four is our magic number right now, but I'm like you, Resa -- I think 5 or 6 is definitely possible.

What's something you hope to accomplish by your next "milestone" birthday (I usually consider these the multiples of 5 -- 30, 35, etc... even 25 for some of you!)? I'd like to have at least one child, possibly two, although I'll be 28 (at least) by the time our first child is born, and I'd like to have a little more of a gap between them, so we'll have to see.  My MOH just got engaged and is planning for a September 2013 wedding, so I'm hoping we can plan to have a baby a few months before that so I'm not super-pregnant at her wedding (as I put it to her, "I'm trying to fit this into my schedule").

professorscience

Oh, Erin, H and I agreed that if we hit three kids and they're all the same gender, we're adopting one of the opposite gender.  We'll probably keep having kids of our own, but we HAVE to have a balance.  Plus we both are really open to adoption.

Also, I recently found out that one of my coworkers has six kids, the youngest of which was born when she was 42.  Zero health problems.  Really renewed my confidence that we can successfully space our kids a few years!

chelseamb11

I am loving all this baby talk.  Proof that I will not be upset if we end up getting pregnant on accident lol.

Speaking of.  TMI alert, but you guys can appreciate this.
I totally ovulated last weekend. Meaning the first 2 1/2-3 weeks of our marriage are infertile time.  I'm so excited

bibliophile2010

If money was not an object, where would you want to travel tomorrow?  Why? I would love to travel to Italy, because I've not really been -- there is so much I want to see. DH has never been to Europe, so I would love to take him to some of the places that I love.

How many children do you hope to have? Officially, our minimum is 2 (we are both anti-only children; no offense meant to anyone who is or hopes to have onlies, just not our thing), and we plan to take it from there one at a time to see what life/God throws at us. I suspect we're looking at 4 or 5. I'm already 30, so I don't know if the old body is cut out for more than 4, when spacing is taken into account.

What's something you hope to accomplish by your next "milestone" birthday (I usually consider these the multiples of 5 -- 30, 35, etc... even 25 for some of you!)? My next milestone is 35, eeeep! :S At that point, the family will be in a place of transition. H will be finishing up training; we'll be moving toward our first long term house/location; Baby Girl will be getting ready to start kinder. I figure we'll have 2-3 kids, and just be doing the family thing. I hope our focus is still on God and family and that we don't let the world distract us from those essentials.

erin5286

I'm totally seeing a Rome/Italy theme here... great minds think alike!

bibliophile2010

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[QUOTE]I am loving all this baby talk.  Proof that I will not be upset if we end up getting pregnant on accident lol. Speaking of.  TMI alert, but you guys can appreciate this. I totally ovulated last weekend. Meaning the first 2 1/2-3 weeks of our marriage are infertile time.  I'm so excited :)
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

Nice! I didn't end up ovulating until our wedding day...not so lucky!

erin5286

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[QUOTE]Oh, Erin, H and I agreed that if we hit three kids and they're all the same gender, we're adopting one of the opposite gender.  We'll probably keep having kids of our own, but we HAVE to have a balance.  Plus we both are really open to adoption. Also, I recently found out that one of my coworkers has six kids, the youngest of which was born when she was 42.  Zero health problems.  Really renewed my confidence that we can successfully space our kids a few years!
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]

That's an awesome plan - we really haven't talked about adoption much except in a vague sense that it would be something to look into if we can't have our own biological children.  But definitely a discussion worth having in more detail at some point.

My mom was around 39 when she would've had my youngest brother.  I seem to be taking after her in most other things, so hopefully I inherit her healthiness with pregnancies (and ability to get through 6 natural childbirths w/ no epidural, wow)

lalaith50

lucky you, chelsea!

and, haha, bibli, me too, exactly! I think God has a sense of humor (or likes to remind us one of the big reasons for marriage...) since I've heard that among brides tracking their fertility, a disproportionate amount seem to ovulate exactly on their wedding day! 

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday questions?? Random convo?? : That's an awesome plan - we really haven't talked about adoption much except in a vague sense that it would be something to look into if we can't have our own biological children.  But definitely a discussion worth having in more detail at some point. My mom was around 39 when she would've had my youngest brother.  I seem to be taking after her in most other things, so hopefully I inherit her healthiness with pregnancies (<strong>and ability to get through 6 natural childbirths w/ no epidural, wow</strong>)
Posted by erin5286[/QUOTE]
God bless your mother lol.
i always change my mind every so often how I feel about doing the epidural.  I'm such a wimp with pain, but I feel like once I'm actually pregnant and responsible for another human being, I'd want to do it naturally. Idk though.

lalaith50

If money was not an object, where would you want to travel tomorrow?  Why?

I would sort of like to go to the Holy Land at some point in my life, but I'm more worried about the danger than money. I've been to Rome and had a really awful time there and so when we went to that fountain where you're supposed to throw money in and wish you'll come back (was that the Trevi fountain? or another one?) I was like, "I hate you, Rome, and I'm never coming back!" (My bad experiences involved bad weather, the Sistine Chapel being randomly closed at noon on our last day there which was one of the things I was most looking forward to seeing, and dirty Italian men on crowded buses.)

Well, I used to love traveling, but I've kind of got it out of my system, and DH hates traveling, so I think I'm good for now. :-)

How many children do you hope to have?

I was just thinking about this the other day...for some funny reason, I just decided 6 would be perfect! I had 4 siblings, which I always thought was an embarassingly huge family when we were out in public, but by the time you get to 6, it's just like a big party! (My thoughts were inspired by seeing DH's mom and her 5 siblings all together, and they were just having so much fun!)

But DH wants 2-3, but we agree we'll take them one at a time. 

I at least hope to not space them too much once we get started, since it seems to me that while the first few years might be really hard, once they get older they'll be able to take care of each other and help out a bit more! But again... one at a time! Neither of us has ANY idea how we'll handle parenting, and the clock is certainly ticking! haha...

What's something you hope to accomplish by your next "milestone" birthday (I usually consider these the multiples of 5 -- 30, 35, etc... even 25 for some of you!)?

I guess not just be pregnant, but have a baby! (DH promised me that awhile ago!) I've got about 1.5 years to get working on that...

erin5286

Chelsea - I'm the exact same way.  My mom and I just talked about it recently, in discussing my cousin who just had her first child but ended up with a schedule C-section.

Apparently, around the time she was pregnant with my older sister, she read a book (title totally slips my mind, but it was a true story about the life of a guy who sailed around the world, I think) ... anyway, the woman in the story was going to have a child and just thought of it in the sense of "women have been doing this for hundreds of years, my body is created to do this, I'll be just fine."  My mom tried to adopt that mentality - I guess it worked 

Resa77

I would like to try to go natural, but I can't promise I won't chicken out at the last minute and get an epidural!  I really hope not to have c-sections, though!  It's weird, I feel like most women I know prefer them.

professorscience

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[QUOTE]I would like to try to go natural, but I can't promise I won't chicken out at the last minute and get an epidural!  I really hope not to have c-sections, though!  It's weird, I feel like most women I know prefer them.
Posted by Resa77[/QUOTE]

<div>I've heard though that lots of doctors won't perform more than two or three c-sections because scar tissue just builds up.  BUT natural birth after a c-section is supposed to be a lot harder.  I don't know.  I just remember a friend of mine being really angry at her doctor (to the point that I think she switched) because he told her she wasn't going to be able to have any more c-sections after her second child was born.</div>

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday questions?? Random convo?? : I've heard though that lots of doctors won't perform more than two or three c-sections because scar tissue just builds up.  BUT natural birth after a c-section is supposed to be a lot harder.  I don't know.  I just remember a friend of mine being really angry at her doctor (to the point that I think she switched) because he told her she wasn't going to be able to have any more c-sections after her second child was born.
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There's a lady from FI's church that had two Csections (unnecessarily she found out later).  She got amidwife for her 3rd and had a VBAC completely naturally at home.  It was the smoothest labor and birth of all 3 of her kids.

Ever seen The Business of Being Born? I always come out of that documentary wanting to do a completely natural midwife birth.  Then I watch a Baby Story and get scared to do it naturally lol.

professorscience

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday questions?? Random convo?? : There's a lady from FI's church that had two Csections (unnecessarily she found out later).  She got amidwife for her 3rd and had a VBAC completely naturally at home.  It was the smoothest labor and birth of all 3 of her kids. Ever seen The Business of Being Born? I always come out of that documentary wanting to do a completely natural midwife birth.  Then I watch a Baby Story and get scared to do it naturally lol.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

<div>One of my friends had her baby at a birthing center instead of a hospital.  I'll grant that I am very skeptical of her very granola lifestyle, but she says she was very happy with the experience and the baby was fine.  It would just make me nervous to not have a doctor on hand.</div>

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tuesday questions?? Random convo?? : One of my friends had her baby at a birthing center instead of a hospital.  I'll grant that I am very skeptical of her very granola lifestyle, but she says she was very happy with the experience and the baby was fine.  It would just make me nervous to not have a doctor on hand.
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Ideally, if I went the midwife route, I'd liek to still do it at a hospital (I know some hospitals do this, they just have separate birthing suites) where doctors are still on hand.  What is sad is our country has one of the highest rates of newborn and mother deaths in the WORLD.  We also have the highest rates of interventions.

monkeysip

Hey Ladies!

If money was not an object, where would you want to travel tomorrow?  Why?

So many places!  I'm liking Chelsea's travel all around Europe answer.  I really want to go back to Italy, but that would make a better honeymoon than going right now.  FI and I are obsessed with Orlando and would love to go back again soon (this time without any budget--do everything we want!). 

How many children do you hope to have?

It's really just up to God and how many we can take care of.  We want a big family, so I think at least 4 sounds good.  But I don't know.

If we have fertility issues, we would both love to adopt.  Again, God willing.

What's something you hope to accomplish by your next "milestone" birthday

I'm 25, so by 30 I hope I have a good teaching job, I hope we have a house, and I hope we have a child.  That's a big to do list!

Also, I'm really hoping to have a homebirth with a mid-wife.  But only if I think it's the right choice for me and the baby at the time.  Obviously I may have to change my plans, but that's ideal to me.

monkeysip

Ok, I'll add a question.

If you had to permanently MOVE somewhere, where would it be? 

I struggle with this question.  Sometimes I think I'd love to move somewhere abroad like Italy or Germany.  But I'd probably get homesick and want "American" things like American TV and food.

In America, I think I'd love to move to Florida or California, but not sure where.  California is so dang expensive.  But I love being near the coast and so many things to do.  So many beautiful places in both of those states, and the weather is still warm but far better than here, except the Florida hurricanes!

professorscience

I honestly think I'd move back to Dallas or stay in OKC, if we were going somewhere stateside.  I also love South Carolina.

Internationally, I think I'd want to be somewhere in Europe -- Scotland, Italy, something like that.  SIL's parents have been living in Norway for about a year (moved there with the same company H works for), and it looks amazing.

I also looooved Dubai when we were there.  I don't know if I could live there permanently, but it was pretty amazing.

erin5286

Moving - that's a tough one... probably Chicago.  I loved the city when I visited a few summers ago, I think it would be a great mix of all the things FI and I would like while still being not to far from our families that we'd be able to visit somewhat often.

Living somewhere in Europe, maybe England or Ireland, would be fabulous, but I don't think I could do it permanently. 

Resa77

I actually love it here in NoVa. I could also imagine living in NYC. I spent a ton of time there when was a kid, and I loved it. I would totally move to Cincinnati right now if FI would agree to it, but he has something against OH though he's never even been there. Outside the US, Im not sure. Never been! As far as C Sections, FMIL had 6 in about 10 years!! I can't imagine they'd recommend that nowadays.

professorscience

I feel so sheltered -- I've only lived in the South, and only recently traveled to NY (and then we only spent about an hour in NYC and didn't do any sight-seeing).  My trip to Dubai was the only time I've ever left the continental US.

H and I agreed to pick a city and travel there once a year from now on.  This year is Newport, next year is Portland!  Hopefully he will get some international work so we can go out of the country more.  

debbiem56

Okay, I'll play since my answers will be totally different -

If money was not an object, where would you want to travel tomorrow?  Why?  This has changed over the past year.  I have really gotten into our family history and I would love to travel to England, France and Germany to visit the hometowns of my ancestors.

How many children do you hope to have?  I have 3 children by my first husband and my husband has 2 children.  We are done, and happy with how many we have.  In addition we have 10 grandchildren between us.  My daughter hopes to have one more, so 11 is just perfect.

What's something you hope to accomplish by your next "milestone" birthday (I usually consider these the multiples of 5 -- 30, 35, etc... even 25 for some of you!)?  Next milestone is 60!  I would like to say retired, but since both us of were unemployed for a significant amount of time (he still is), I would say having a job that brings us satisfaction (and more money) and maybe enjoying a great-grandchild.

If you had to permanently MOVE somewhere, where would it be?  I would prefer not to move because our entire family is here.  But if I HAD to, possibly Arizona as long as my A/C never failed me.  It is so beautiful there.