Hello Ladies,
FI and I are doing a full nuptial mass at 1:30pm on wedding day. It will be over at 2:30pm and we're debating the length of our gap. We have lots of out of town guests, some of whom might want to check into the hotel (2 blocks from the hotel, 6 blocks from reception venue) at 3:00pm. Some of our OOT guests are not staying over at all (just going home afterward).
I don't want a gap at all but I also don't want the wedding to be over at 8:00pm. We have the reception venue all day so start time doesn't matter.
As a guest (especially for out of towners who are not staying over)...
Re: Length of Gap
I would go for the hour only because you never know what might slow things down (musicians run late, receiving line, etc) and I wouldn't want cocktail hour to start right at 2:30pm if I know my guests wouldn't even make it there until 3:00pm anyway.
ETA: Unless you could have your venue do an extended cocktail hour of 90 minutes.... that would be ideal.
We had an hour (sites were 15-20 mins apart) and we STILL ran late.
If you think a lot of the guests will check into the hotel after the reception, I actually think 1.5 hours would be better.
I don't get it though... all of these options have a 2.5 hours for cocktails? That seems really, really long.
Baby #2: Surprise BFP 9.19.12, EDD 5.24.13, natural m/c 10.19.13 at 9w
I think that a 60 minute gap with a 1.5 hour cocktail hour would be ideal.
I just don't get brides that want to race their guests through the day. I've seen too many guests gulp their drinks and appetizers then rush to dinner. Relax and enjoy the time you have!.
As ringpop said, some people will have to check into their hotel during this time.
I don't know anyone under that age of 85 that eats dinner at 4:00. That's waaay too early, IMO
p.s.Swing band dancing instruction? Invite me, please!
keep the thoughts coming ladies. i'm always happy to have other points of view.
folks will still probably leave right after dinner (at least those traveling, the hotelers will probably stay), especially if they have had several hours gap to hang around. i think its cool that there is a decent activity arranged, at the venue, but honestly, as a guest i would probably be thinking "why isnt the party starting"? i sort of dont like the idea of "forcing" people to stick around by purposely scheduling the dinner later.
in the interest of full disclosure, tho, gaps are a completely foreign concept to me (and my husband) and we are both lifelong catholics.
Don't worry too much about people leaving. There's not much you can do to help the fact that some people simply can't stay for the whole night. Just plan a fun wedding, keep the party flowing well and celebrate with those who want to celebrate with you!
Baby #2: Surprise BFP 9.19.12, EDD 5.24.13, natural m/c 10.19.13 at 9w
I can't really see swing dancing at a wedding luncheon although I don't think that I've ever attended one.
OP, swing on;)
[QUOTE] we are hiring a swing band and my friend is a swing instructor. she will be teaching a mini-lesson between cocktails and dinner for people to watch or try.
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Oh my goodness I'm so jealous! lol. I wanted to do that forever, but when it came time to realistically plan a wedding... yeah, not happening :-( Good for you though!
Little Gabriel: BFP 7/12/11~EDD 3/21/12, miscarried 8/24/11 at 10w
Dinner will be about 5, which is early for some, but not particularly early in my area (6 is norm), and people will have probably not have eaten in several hours, so they'll be hungry enough. I also know that I have families with kids, grandparents/older people, and out-of-towners (about 2 hours) who may want to cut out early. I'm okay with it -- I know it's not about me or about being a bad hostess or anything like that. It's life. I have other friends/family members who will shut the place down and will probably continue the party elsewhere after the fact. That's just how it goes.
Waiting to meet the baby broccoli on 5/5/2013!
[QUOTE]Color me jealous with the whole swing dancing thing! Do weddings you go to usually have gaps? In my case, I have only been to two weddings without gaps, neither of which were religious. I've been to over 20 religious weddings, all with between a 2 and 4 hour gap. But it really depends on your social circle.
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This is pretty much me too. Most religious weddings (except Jewish) I've been to do have a gap and I expect and don't mind it, and i really haven't hear anyone at the weddings I've attended complain (and I have heard them complain about plenty of other things!). But I know other people really do hate it, so it depends on what your guests are expecting.
To me, i think evening receptions are more fun, so I'd rather wait around a little for a fun night of eating and drinking and dancing than go straight to a luncheon reception.
Calypso, i think it's so weird that you never have Catholic gap weddings, since we are both in the Boston area, and I've been to so many with gaps! I guess it isn't as regional as I though.
[QUOTE] I personally don't mind the gap. Posted by ellen73[/QUOTE]
This is all I could think of when you said "mind the gap".
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