Did/do you plan on mostly instrumental music for your ceremony? I had chosen a bunch of music for the prelude/processional/recessional, but when I met with the music director of my church, she wanted me to pick out a bunch of songs for the congregation to sing, including the wedding processional and recessional. Is that normal?
I haven't been to a wedding at my church (I'm new to the area and also my church is in the suburbs where few young people live so there aren't many weddings done here), but I don't recall ever singing for the bridal processional or recessional.