So...will he wear a ring?

lmeade62

My FI told me quite a while ago that he would not wear a wedding ring. He never wears any kind of jewelry - not even a watch; he just asks me what time it is all the time, which sometimes is cute and sometimes drives me crazy <g>. I offered to pay to tattoo it in his finger, but for some reason he wouldn't go for it!

He is willing to let me buy a ring and put it on him for the ceremony and reception, but then it's going in a box. At first, that bothered me, but now it really doesn't...like I said, I've never seen him wear a single piece of jewelry, so I know it's a personal preference and not a desire to "not look married."

Anybody else have similar stories?

Linda

mcdol3

Not a similar story, but FI is having a harder time picking out his ring than he did mine. heehee

Calypso1977

i personally never wear my diamond.  i didnt even want one. its very pretty, but i dont care for jewelry.   neither of us wears watches either.

i often dont wear my band, like on weekends.
he wears his band probably 60% of the time.

we're both glad we have our bands, but we dont feel any more or less married or committed based on how often we wear them.

Jackief11

My father is a mechanic and he hasn't worn a ring the entire 33 years he and my mother have been married. He has a ring, but for safety reasons its not really practical.

lmeade62

That's what it is for Ron, too...when he was doing mechanical, farming, and other work, it just wasn't practical. But he also just doesn't like the way it feels. I have to admit, when I first started wearing my engagement ring, it felt weird, too!

ootmother2

My mom bought my dad a wedding ring for Christmas almost every year. Every summer we would be down the Cape and he would lose it in the water.

I honestly don't know why she kept it up.

mica178

My mom bought dad 5 replacement rings before she gave up. 

lmeade62

Oh my, Mica! Your dog is so cute!

[Deleted User]

My H cannot wear his ring at work. They have a strict policy about no jewelry of any sort. However, he does put it on almost every night when he gets home and wears it on the weekends when he is not on call.

And yes, I think it took him longer to find a band that he liked than I did picking out mine. And his was more expensive than mine...lol, so he better wear the thing when he can.

lisa89760

My FI will be wearing a ring...My parents got divorced because my dad cheated on my mom and he refused to wear his wedding ring so I have a complex about it and he understands plus all of his friends wear his and I think he wants to. 

Side note: my dad is in sales so its not like he couldn't wear his ring he just didn't want to.

ring_pop

My DH said he'd probably never get used to wearing the ring. He was really picky about finding one that was comfortable and unobtrusive.

Well wouldn't you know... a year later, when we dropped off our rings at the jeweller to be polished, he said he felt weird without it!

mica178

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_sowill-wear-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:8de4f7fb-a16d-4fb0-8692-83f206181a80Post:a59978b3-4543-4f53-abcf-7b31773fe9dd">Re: So...will he wear a ring?</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh my, Mica! Your dog is so cute!
Posted by lmeade62[/QUOTE]

<div>Thank you!  I think so too!</div>

tldh

DH had never worn any jewelry before his wedding band.  After 3 1/2 months he's still getting used to it.  Neither of us wears our rings at home but we put them on before we go out.

newlyseliski

My coworker's husband works a lot on cars, so he wasn't too excited about the jewelery thing, either.  He opted for a darker tungsten one because if they're compressed, they don't bend and squash your finger... they crack and break off.  Tungsten doesn't bend easily like softer metals like gold and stainless steel... plus the darker charcoal color probably seems more manly?  It's a lot more scratch resistant than other metals as well.  You've probably tried to sell him on this one already, though

My fiance and I aren't much of jewelery people either... I've never worn anything on my hands until my engagement ring.  It still snags on a lot of stuff (esp gloves and sweaters this time of year) so I might lean more towards wearing my band all of the time instead of both when I get married.  My fiance will probably wear his all the time when we're married... I got him a palladium band with a brushed finish so it doesn't show wear like gold would.

SoHappyToBeMrsC

My BF wants to wear a ring, but he really doesn't care about what type it is, as long as it's not yellow gold, and just told me to find something cheap! haha. Anyway, I'm sure I'll get him something nice in white gold.

DanielleZZ

My FI is the exact same way no watch nothing.  The difference is that he brought up the idea of ring tattoo and I said sounds perfect so that is the plan.  He has an old ring (sitting in a box) that I bought him years ago before I knew he didnt like them so he is going to use that for the ceremony.  My dad never wears his ring (and has no tattoo) so it never seemed strange to me that FI didn't want to wear one.

mcassidy88

DH took forever to find the "perfect" ring and has worn it constantly. He wanted an engagement ring too...so I got him one from James Avery engraved with "Reserved"

Muahaha

My father is also a mechanic and has worn his ring on a chain since his wedding day

christyhal

FI has an engagement ring (tradition in his family/culture), which when I first gave it to him he said felt "wierd" and he wouldn't stop messing with it.  Now he says it feels wierd without it.  :-)  So I am pretty sure he'll be wearing his wedding ring with no complaints.

My dad is on his second or third wedding ring.  He used to work in construction, and hit his a number of times with a hammer into a D shape. (at least it wasn't his fingers he was smashing...) They can only be made round again so many times...

cutie+love

My dad never wore a ring, and so growing up I just thought it was normal that men didn't wear wedding rings. Now I know that's not the case, and I really want my future husband to wear one. He said he will .