Starting Pre-Cana

lv2011

This Thursday we have our first meeting with our priest, who is a long-time family friend of my FI and his family. I know there are question that he will ask us, but are there any questions that I should ask him? We're both Catholic, so neither of us have questions about the mass/ ceremony in general, but are there specifics and details that I should be aware of and ask about?

What were some things you asked your priest?

professorscience

Our first meeting with the priest was really informal (we invited him over for dinner).  We didn't really have any questions for him, but he asked us a ton of questions to get to know us better and gave us some "homework" for our next meeting.

I don't think you need to worry about any details at this meeting.  Most of the time I think the priest will lead the discussion.

Tami87

I asked about the timeline for getting things like baptismal certificates and when we should do engagement encounter weekend etc. Since we are getting married not where we live, I also had to get a letter from the priest at the parish I attend now. Mostly paperwork stuff and when it all needed to be in just to make sure I didn't miss anything.

Eliz77

Tonight we had our official 1st meeting with the deacon who will be officiating at our wedding. Technically, this was our 3rd "first" meeting-the 1st was with a priest at another Church we did not feel comfortable with at all, the 2nd was with the monsignor of our Church who ended up unable to perform our wedding.

Basically, we went over the details of the ceremony, order of go, set up rehersal time, the costs. Then he asked us personal questions and that was logged into this huge book for weddings going back 12 years. 

We asked him ceremony-related questions like how to make the programs (talked us through an outline of what would be expected), if the flower girl could throw flowers (said sure, but it was obvious it would be more of a hassle so I'm nixing that) and about flowers for the Church (anything goes).

He reminded us of the paperwork that has to be turned in before our wedding date (baptism, etc papers, pre-cana certificate, marriage license-day before we are to sign with BM and MoH). 

Basically, I think the 1st meeting is a get to know each other, find out the routinue in how a wedding occurs and that's that. He pretty much said we should touch base in a few months and gave us his email, cell and home #. It was a very positive experience and he gave me some things to think about. Good luck!