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A bit embarrassing, but...any other virgin brides out there?
I know I'm going out on a limb by being so open on here, but I am a virgin bride-to-be. I am obviously SOOO looking forward to the wedding night, to be married and to party, but also (let's be honest!) to FINALLY have sex! I can't wait to give my entire self, at last, to my one true love. I think it will be a pretty darn good wedding present to him! 
However, I'm a little nervous, as I've heard it can be pretty painful the first few times, especially if you're a small woman (I'm 5'1). Is anyone else thinking about this part of the wedding "experience" as well, besides all the lovely ceremony and reception details? I mean, the sacrament is not complete until you've consummated it, right?
However, I'm a little nervous, as I've heard it can be pretty painful the first few times, especially if you're a small woman (I'm 5'1). Is anyone else thinking about this part of the wedding "experience" as well, besides all the lovely ceremony and reception details? I mean, the sacrament is not complete until you've consummated it, right? I can't wait to be Mrs.! 
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Re: A bit embarrassing, but...any other virgin brides out there?
It is indeed the beautiful complete self gift of the whole person, the irrevocable gift that Christ gave of his body and blood at the cross that it is an image of that points us to heaven.
i made it until 21 before i had sex.... it was not painful at all. id say the guy was of average size. he was very loving and caring though, which i assume that your husband will be as well. i'm wondering if much of hte pain some virgins experience is either due to the guy being too rough either out of inexperience or due to their nature, or simply the woman being extremely tense due to nerves. while somewhat nervous, i was very relaxed my first time because it felt right and i had waited such a long time. it also wasnt in the back of a car, in the woods, or some of these crazy places teens tend to do it in.
i think you will be fine. relax, and know its all right.
i actually envy you.... i really wish i had the discipline to have waited.
[QUOTE]I am not in this position...but a good friend of mine in college was a virgin bride. I can tell you what she shared. They did not have sex on her wedding night. But, she did say that they had a wonderful night together. They did have sex on their honeymoon and she was loving it by the time she got home. She said they just took things slow and did what was comfortable for both of them. But, she has nothing but rave reviews! She says it was worth it and meaningful and she wouldn't change it for anything!
Posted by fam6[/QUOTE]
I basically ditto what fam6's friend said! PM me if you have any more questions <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
Blessings to you and your soon-to-be husband as you wait the next few weeks and prepare for the sacrament of marriage!
PS, in regards to your post title, it isn't embarrassing at all.
[QUOTE]PS, in regards to your post title, it isn't embarrassing at all.
Posted by GulfCoaster[/QUOTE]
Yes! definitely that! It's quite an accomplishment, be proud!
You may want to talk with your FI about the option of not actually having sex on the wedding night IF you're both too tired. Believe me, I certainly remember the feeling of, "Ican'twaitIcan'twaitICAN'TWAIT!" but if you're both totally bushed, enjoyed lots of champagne at your reception, and don't have the energy, you can always put it off for just a few more hours!
And don't be nervous - you're marrying the man you love, and you will be a pro by the time you come home from the honeymoon. I echo that you can feel free to PM me if need be.
Don't worry if it will hurt. You won't find out until you get there so there's no point in psyching yourself out. It did hurt for me (and no, I wasn't nervous and he wasn't rough or inexperienced). Some women's bodies are just built like this. If I go for more than a few weeks without sex, the next time back hurts a little even now, ten years later.
In the event that you are uncomfortable or it is hurting, just stop and pick up again when you are ready. It sometimes takes a few times to finish. Take it slow and just enjoy everything leading up to the big moment.
AKA GoodLuckBear14
[QUOTE]Jaci Angel, what are you supposed to do to avoid a urinary tract infection? Just wash there afterwards or something? Also, I second the idea of waiting till the next morning or when you are on your honeymoon and also bring lots of lube.
Posted by Theresa626[/QUOTE]
go to the bathroom afterwards. this gets rid of any bacteria that may have gotten into the tract.
AKA GoodLuckBear14
also, TMI (but hey, my prior post was already pretty graphic compared to most on this thread) the only time i EVER had a UTI was when i had sex during my period. never again. ever. damn, that infection was painful!
YES!
My husband and I were both virgins (and high school sweethearts!) and I definitely recommend lube and not getting dehydrated on your wedding day.
But seriously, it is such a wonderful thing to share with each other, even if it isn't "perfect." Plus, I like to think God gave us an awesome wedding gift--I entered the infertile period on our wedding night, so we had an AWESOME honeymoon.
Waiting until marriage has confirmed for me that humans were meant to be monogamous.
marissa, i'm excited - we are heading out on our second honeymoon this friday (we only went away 3 nights locally after the wedding) - ill be in my infertile phase by the time we board the plane to leave. i cant help but think its a "reward" from God for finally doing the right thing. i was still a pill user at the time we were married, mostly because i wanted to "play" on our honeymoon... a selfish choice indeed. so happy now that we are taking our trip that things worked out perfectly!
agreed!
work that babydoll, hallie. :-)
I (almost) can't wait until that night, but I'm so glad that we are!