So I've got less than four months to go until my wedding and I've been charting for a while now and starting to feel pretty confident. It is still a little early to know for sure, but it looks like our wedding night may fall a day or two before I would normally ovulate (horrible timing for TTA).
I'm trying not to get too worried about this (especially bc I know my cycle could go crazy in the next few months), but I can't help thinking about it. I realize it won't kill me if we have to wait a few extra days if we decide to abstain on our wedding night, but at the same time we have been waiting for over 4.5 years and I have been looking forward to that night! Part of me just wants to go for it, but since I still will be in graduate school and FI hasn't found a full time job using his degree yet we aren't in the best financial situation so it seems a tad irresponsible.
Did anyone else not have sex on their wedding night? What did you do instead (if you don't mind sharing)? Sleep, lol? Any thoughts or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.
Re: NFP and Fertile on Wedding Night?
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We plan on abstaining on our wedding night on the too-tired theory. Big parties are neither of our favorite things (but I still want a big wedding for my church friends to have the gorgeous liturgy), and I'll never be anxiety-free re: first-time sex. We've waited all our lives. We can wait one more night. One huge anxiety per day, if you can at all plan it that way.
[QUOTE]We were too tired anyway....
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<div>This. I was past my fertile period, and we were done with the reception by about 10, but I was SO exhausted I just wanted to go to sleep.</div>
[QUOTE]We were too tired anyway....
Posted by Riss91[/QUOTE]
<div>Ditto this... and we were also fertile on the wedding night and TTA! We'd already been waiting 5 years, so one more night wasn't that significant in the larger scheme of things... except then we had to abstain the whole honeymoon because pre-wedding stress had screwed up my whole cycle apparently... lucky us! A lot can happen in the four months before... and any change in stress level can throw things off... so you might be fine :-)</div>