I found the perfect thread so it seems. So my FI grew up in a pentacostal church and I was raised as a catholic. Neither one of us are actively practicing our religion. I suggested to my FI that we should have a catholic wedding since he has said he does not even know if he believes god exist. So there were some arguments around this because he said he is open to all religions but catholic. I said that it is important to raise kids with an identified religion and since I belong to one and he does not seem to care to be connected to one particular religion, I am not seeing why he is arguing about it. I would like to have a religious wedding but he does not seem to care if we go to a baptist church etc as long as we get married. Fair enough but why go there when I identify with a specific religion. The other issue as well is that I belong to a particular parish but I have not been going there for a while since I moved. This is the only church I know as I go there with my family when I attend church on sundays so to me it makes sense why we should get married there. He was advised by a family friend to tell the priest that we do not live together just for the technicality. He does not want to lie which I understand so now I have to go to the other church near where we live which I am not a member of and apparently I need to be a member of that church for at least a year before they even want to marry you.
So anyway the big thing is my FI wants to be honest as he can be with the priest which we should be anyway but I am worried that he will say whatever he wants and the priest will say no to us as my FI is very opinionated. I was just trying to prep him so he knows what to expect and he is not listening. He agreed to "check it out" anyway but I feel like it might be a waste of time since we have to find another ceremony site if not the church. I would really like to receive this sacrament if I can. I did not realize how important it is to me to have a catholic wedding until it was apparent we were getting engaged. Arggh I don't know maybe I'm being selfish.