Obviously I'm not even married yet, so I'm not planning a vow renewal, but with all the talk about vow renewals on the other boards, I was just curious as to how a Catholic would have a vow renewal if they wanted one.
I'm not talking about convalidations... completely different thing.
But just out of curiosity, if a Catholic had a Catholic wedding, and years later they wanted to renew their vows, would this be a religious thing, like in a church with a priest, or could they do it anywhere with anyone?
Renewing your vows doesn't seem to really fit in with the idea of marriage in the Catholic church, so it seems kind of weird, but I've never heard that it's prohibited or anything. So if a Catholic did want to do that, what would be proper decorum?

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Re: Catholic vow renewal?
i personally think vow renewals are stupid and pointless if done before a MAJOR landmark year. i would even think doing it at 25 would be too soon, unless you are a couple that married in your 40's who then might never reach 50 years due to age (or if you did, not be in well enough health do do a renewal/celebration).
the vow renewals i see on other boards is just a mask for wanting a party. IMO, they have nothing to do with the ceremony or wanting to renew/reaffirm vows. these people simply didnt get hte party or wedding they wanted the first time and they want a do-over.
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I can definitely see that. Just curious as to if there are any normal decorum rules for catholic vow renewals, and what would the liturgy even look like? It obviously wouldn't be the same as a wedding, and it seems weird to just create a liturgy for it.
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Maybe the vow renewal was after mass? Kind of like how they sometimes do baptisms after mass. I remember the priest saying a few things about my grandparents and then they repeated their vows and exchanged a kiss. But they did this seated in their usual handicap section of the church.
We also had a big reception/party with a plated dinner and band. It was nice to get everyone together since my family is spread across the country and rarely would my grandparents get to see all those people.
[QUOTE]Just did this to celebrate 25 years. Our venue had a beautiful space for the ceremony. We had one reading, the Gospel, a homily, prayers of the faithful and the Lords prayer. A renewal is non-sacramental, so no issue doing it outside church. Technically it was a prayer service and we did not have communion. Many relatives commented on how Catholic it was, but I don't think it was uncomfortable for our non Catholic friends. Start to finish it was 25 minutes and just what we wanted.
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It sounds lovely! Even though it was in a secular space, I'm assuming you still had a priest or deacon presiding?
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