I'm in a little bit of a conundrum. When I first talked to the priest at the church I'm getting married in, he asked if we had any other celebrant in mind or if we wanted him to celebrate it. I said we didn't have anyone else in mind because we didn't, at the time, and because I'm already coordinating the marriage stuff from a distance and didn't want to bring another priest into it.
So, now, my mom has said that she'd really prefer another priest celebrate the wedding, and I have two other options, the priest that was chaplain of my high school or a high-school classmate of mine who has entered the priesthood. I'm really fine with whomever doing it, but I'm not sure how to go about it. Should I call the priest at the church I'm getting married at first to let him know that we'd like to bring in another celebrant? Or do I call/facebook (yes, they both have it) one of the other priests and then talk to the priest at the church? Both of the other priests have said Masses at the church I'm getting married in (one was the pastor until a few years ago). I just don't know who to contact first. Add to that that I'm out of town and we're doing all of our marriage prep here. Advice?
Re: Priest Questions
If either of you want to change, it is a decision you should make together. If that's the route you decide to take, I would contact the new person to see if they are even available (since you already have the church booked and ball rolling on a certain date). If so, I would bring it up to the priest you are already working with in a gentle manner and make appropriate arrangements from there.
IF this is something you want to take on. When my future in-laws started asking for changes in our ceremony, my fiance and I discussed it and told them they'd have to pay for and research their requests. I wasn't taking on more planning tasks or expenses 7 months into planning. It's totally fine to tell your mother you don't have time for double marriage-prep, nor think it's necessary, and if she wants a priest she knows better, she should get to know the first one.
With that being said, write down the names of the priest on a piece of paper, and draw them out of a hat. The one you choose is the priest you use...lol. Just kidding!