my bf is from Cameroon and im Haitian-American we r going to Cameroon in December and want to immediately get married (civil service) after returning. Problem is we are both very Catholic and want to do this so we can have a child shortly as we are in our early 30's. We are currently foster parents to my niece and have been raising her since she was 2mo ( currently days away from 14mo). We had planned on (and still do!) our church wedding but are finding we want to get married sooner than later but dnt have the budget (yet) for the wedding of our dreams. My niece may be returning home very soon and we both agree we are ready to start a family of our own but are torn on not following the teachings of the church.