Honeymoon Registry

Amber1114

My fiance & I already have everything we need for our house & I have seen that some people use a honeymoon registery. What are your thoughts on that? Is it rude to ask for something like that? Has anyone ever used a honeymoon registery? If so which ones? Do you reccommend them?

MoonlightSilver

Honeymoon registries are very rude. They usually take a cut of your money. If you want to save up for a honeymoon, just make a very small traditional registry and if people ask, let them know you're saving for the honeymoon. It's much better for your guest to write you a $100 check and you get all $100, than for them to "buy" you a massage for $100 but you get a check for $92 and never even get the massage. 

dazyabbey

Honeymoon registries are frowned upon at this board.

If you decide to go with this option make sure your friends/families would be okay with it.  Make sure you use a company that does not take a percentage of your present.  And last do not register for something that you will not use. Only register for a massage on the beach if you are going to use the money for massage on the beach.

hoffse

As far as I know the only companies that don't take cuts are big box resorts.  I know Sandals, for instance, has a registry that actually gives you a voucher for an activity.  From an etiquette standpoint, I think those are fine because you are actually getting what the guest thinks s/he is giving you.  From a tacky standpoint, I still think you should pay for your own vacation.  I'm not going to buy you a $100 pedicure you know?

Frankly, as a guest I have only given to a honeymoon registry once.  It was for one of my best friends who I knew was moving from a large condo to a tiny apartment, and so I broke my own rule.  She finally cashed my check for her honeymoon a month after she got back.  Tell me how that was supposed to help her with this big vacation - it didn't, because she didn't get the money until after it was all said and done.  My checkbook was also unbalanced for several months.  As a result, I will never give cash or contribute to a honeymoon registry again.

OP, just make a small registry of upgrades (if you have some - new towels, bedding, etc.) or don't register at all.  Most people will take the hint and will give you cash.  Once the cash is in hand it is your business how you spend it - but I don't think suggesting to people outright that they fund a vacation is particularly tasteful.  FI and I pay for our own vacations, and I think other people should pay for theirs.

MNVegas

I find HM registries rude.  Basically it is a request for cash just disguised as a registry. People already know that cash is an appreciated gifts. So either do no or small registry and people will get the hint. 

wood0390

A honeymoon registry is a great idea!  It allows guests to have fun giving.  I didn't want to get my cousin some lame gravy bowl that she will eventually forget but rather tickets to the art museum on their honeymoon.

www.honeyfund.com  Is free (you can pay for a fancier background and graphics).  It is completely customizable.  You basically itemize your honeymoon from plane tickets, accommodations, to activities and meals.  You create a price and then request the number of vouchers you need at that price.  Example doing a glacier hike is $150 for both of us so we made the price at $25 and asked for 6 vouchers.  Your guest select how many they want to purchase and it is deducted on your site.  The best part is the guest then sends you a personal check for the amount they said they would pay.  It allows guests to contribute to what they are excited about and for how much they can afford!   

We already received some items on our honeyfund for Iceland and guests were thrilled to be helping toward a specific fun thing - such as white water rafting.  I already sent thank yous but am planning to email or send a photo of us enjoying that part of our honeymoon with the guest that gave us money to do it.  We are also registered at Macy's for more traditional things like sheets.  

Good luck and don't listen to all the "frowned upon" stuff.  It is your day to share and enjoy and do as you wish.  I believe chatting on line and asking complete strangers for suggestions could be considered frowned upon to some.  But hey it works and is helpful.  

Ctrossello

I was in the same boat as you, FI and I had everything already for a home we already have.  I liked using the Honeymoon registry.  I used it to focus on the extras of a vacation that would be really nice to have, but not necessarily needed (i.e. spa, a day trip, etc).  It went over really well with my group of family and friends.  You never know how much you will get so just be careful to book a honeymoon you can afford if you were to receive $0.  

However, I did create a traditional registry as well.  Not everyone likes (as you can tell) or knows what they are.  This way everyone is happy and if they don't like it, they don't have to get you anything off it

Maggie0829

Not another post about HM registries!

Can we please make a sticky that covers all the reasons as to why HM registries are frowned upon on here so we can direct people to that rather than having to repeat ourselves over and over again?

MoonlightSilver

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-48?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:17221fd6-21b0-45b7-9949-d02dd3383f57Post:3b675f37-80dd-4a94-964b-6f74600197aa">Honeymoon Registry GREAT IDEA!</a>:
[QUOTE]A honeymoon registry is a great idea!  It allows guests to have fun giving.  I didn't want to get my cousin some lame gravy bowl that she will eventually forget but rather tickets to the art museum on their honeymoon. <a href="http://www.honeyfund.com" rel="nofollow">www.honeyfund.com</a>  Is free (you can pay for a fancier background and graphics).  It is completely customizable.  You basically itemize your honeymoon from plane tickets, accommodations, to activities and meals.  You create a price and then request the number of vouchers you need at that price.  Example doing a glacier hike is $150 for both of us so we made the price at $25 and asked for 6 vouchers.  Your guest select how many they want to purchase and it is deducted on your site.  The best part is the guest then sends you a personal check for the amount they said they would pay.  It allows guests to contribute to what they are excited about and for how much they can afford!    We already received some items on our honeyfund for Iceland and guests were thrilled to be helping toward a specific fun thing - such as white water rafting.  I already sent thank yous but am planning to email or send a photo of us enjoying that part of our honeymoon with the guest that gave us money to do it.  We are also registered at Macy's for more traditional things like sheets.   Good luck and don't listen to all the "frowned upon" stuff.  It is your day to share and enjoy and do as you wish.  I believe chatting on line and asking complete strangers for suggestions could be considered frowned upon to some.  But hey it works and is helpful.  <div>Posted by wood0390[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>Do your guests <strong>know</strong> that they are just sending you a check? Or do they think they're actually giving you part of a white water rafting trip?

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GoodLuckBear14

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-48?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:17221fd6-21b0-45b7-9949-d02dd3383f57Post:3b675f37-80dd-4a94-964b-6f74600197aa">Honeymoon Registry GREAT IDEA!</a>:
[QUOTE]A honeymoon registry is a great idea!  It allows guests to have fun giving.  <strong>I didn't want to get my cousin some lame gravy bowl that she will eventually forget but rather tickets to the art museum on their honeymoon.</strong> <a href="http://www.honeyfund.com" rel="nofollow">www.honeyfund.com</a>  Is free (you can pay for a fancier background and graphics).  It is completely customizable.  You basically itemize your honeymoon from plane tickets, accommodations, to activities and meals.  You create a price and then request the number of vouchers you need at that price.  Example doing a glacier hike is $150 for both of us so we made the price at $25 and asked for 6 vouchers.  Your guest select how many they want to purchase and it is deducted on your site.  The best part is the guest then sends you a personal check for the amount they said they would pay.  It allows guests to contribute to what they are excited about and for how much they can afford!    We already received some items on our honeyfund for Iceland and guests were thrilled to be helping toward a specific fun thing - such as white water rafting.  I already sent thank yous but am planning to email or send a photo of us enjoying that part of our honeymoon with the guest that gave us money to do it.  We are also registered at Macy's for more traditional things like sheets.   Good luck and don't listen to all the "frowned upon" stuff.  <strong>It is your day</strong> to share and enjoy and do as you wish.  I believe chatting on line and asking complete strangers for suggestions could be considered frowned upon to some.  But hey it works and is helpful.  
Posted by wood0390[/QUOTE]

1.  You did not buy her tickets to the Art Museum.  You sent a company money, they took some of the money and then sent her a check fro the remaining amount.

2. "It's your day" is hands down the worst advice you could ever give someone.  It is not true.  You have guests and they have be taken into consideration when making decisions.

ksisto321

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-48?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:17221fd6-21b0-45b7-9949-d02dd3383f57Post:7eab239f-524b-4cdc-800e-8f177177ae2f">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]Not another post about HM registries! Can we please make a sticky that covers all the reasons as to why HM registries are frowned upon on here so we can direct people to that rather than having to repeat ourselves over and over again?
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I've seen you respond several times to these types of questions, in the future, do us all a favor and ignore them!  we get what your opinon is on them...let the people ask questions and get HELPFUL answers....

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Maggie0829

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-48?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:17221fd6-21b0-45b7-9949-d02dd3383f57Post:e4103e99-cf74-41d0-9982-5c11dd9696c7">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon Registry : I've seen you respond several times to these types of questions, in the future, do us all a favor and ignore them!  we get what your opinon is on them...let the people ask questions and get HELPFUL answers....
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And why am I getting singled out here? Many people respond to these questions with the same opinion as myself. Also, do not tell me how to post on these boards. I know the rules and am allowed to state my opinion as much as I like to. I consider telling someone that HM registries are rude is very helpful advice actually. Would you rather find out they are rude before doing one by an outside party or would you rather all your guests side-eye you and talk behind your back?

greymonkey42

I think it's a perfectly fine idea as long as you are considerate of others.  I think it's a bit unfair to ask for money for your honeymoon if you are going to wait until after it to cash the checks.  Cash them right away so your guest aren't having too wait for you to cash them.    If you create a small registry and than a honeymoon registry there's a higher percentage of your guest accepting the idea.  You'll probably also have guest who are close to you and instead of giving you money they'll find something unusual and cute that you never would have thought of.