Go for it... your thoughts on HM registry

alissarenee

I had never heard of a HM registry being rude before these boards.  I have contributed to them, and I think they are a wonderful idea!  I am of the mindset that it is no more rude to ask for a contribution towards your HM than it is to register for gifts through a traditional registry, or to spread the word that you would just like cash.  I will be over 30 when I get married, and I live in the city.  Thus, not only do I already have most things I need, I don't have extra space to store every gadget that Williams Sonoma thinks I should own.  And yes, I could ask for "upgrades," but I think they would be too pricey.  Plus, I would never register for something just for the sake of registering (i.e. if it was something I didn't really need/want).  To me, that would be like asking anyone who wants to give me a gift to throw their money away.

I can't imagine ever being offended because of someone's registry.  When I am invited to a wedding, I am honored to be included as a guest on the couple's special day. 

Elle27Mc

Isn't it really about YOUR wedding and what YOU want? Not really what everyone else thinks? You will never get everyone to agree on everything. I'm sure there will be people that don't agree with the linen choices or flower colors but is that going to sway you from doing what you want? It shouldn't.

We've already had people ask us where we are registered. It makes it easier for them instead of trying to guess what we have or may need.  A lot of people we've told think it's a neat idea.

My FI and I have lived together for 3 years and before that we each had our own places so we've already had to purge items. We have everything you typically get on a registry and so why not have them get you something fun for your honeymoon? I wouldn't do room upgrades or anything like that but a lot of our friends have done them and gotten jet ski rentals, dinner on the beach, massages, etc.

People aren't obligated to get you anything for your wedding and most people that do would like to get you something you could use or want. I personally wouldn't like to end up with 15 toasters just because I didn't want a select few to think it was rude to register. We have a HM registry and a regular one so people can choose either. It's 2009 and times are changing. Is it rude now to have the FI's parent's contribute to the wedding as well or you even pay for part of it? I don't think so. Times change...I dont understand why the whole registry thing is such taboo anyway.  

Bottom line is do what you want to do! It's your day!

nataliem.22

Wow what a debated topic. When I heard of the concept of a HM registry, my first thought was how cool, what a great idea, not HOW rude! I never thought this concept was rude at all. You will either register for gifts at a department store, or register for an amazing honeymoon. If you asked your mom, grandma, grandpa what they would rather get you, a toaster or a romantic champagne breakfast for two, I guarantee they would pick the breakfast. I get that some people dont want to register anywhere because they feel its tacky and they shouldn't be asking for gifts, but how many people do you know that DON'T bring a gift to a wedding, no one! Whether its a guess of what the gift should be, or a card with some cash, everyone knows that its tradition, respectful, and polite to bring some type of gift to a wedding so wouldn't you want it to be something you WANT not something you'll throw in the closet because you can never use it.

I am all for a HM registry, I think its a fabulous way for your friends and family to get you something unique, and personal that they know you will completely enjoy. I would love to tell someone my gift to my friends was a sunset cruise or massage for two rather then a boring old alarm clark. Definately go for the HM registry!!