Honeymoon Registry??

cruise160

Has anyone registered through a travel agancy for the honeymoon? MY fiance and I are an already established couple so the normal registry items really dont interest us (i.e things for a home). But we are pretty much at $0 budget for the honeymoon.

mgietler76

Honeymoon registries are for the most part frowned upon here, it's tacky and along the same lines as asking for cash. If you want a vacation (which is all a honeymoon is) than pay for it yourself.

Don't register for anything and say no to all showers, people will take the hint and give you cash. You can use said cash for your honeymoon.

sister2groom

Ditto mgietler.

Chasity08

It amazes me that people still post about these! haha. I would search the forum for honeymoon registries and you'll find at least 1 post a week about them with hundreds of responses. GL! =]

ehathewa

You can't count on people getting you things of a registry - so don't plan a honeymoon you can't afford...  You may not get the gifts you are expecting. 

If you would like cash as gifts, don't register anywhere and spread by word of mouth that you are saving for a trip, etc. 

Many people find honeymoon registries rude because guests believe that they are buying the couple things like a massage or dinner on the beach, but the couple actually just recieves cash.  It is seen as dishonest. 

amyn1919

i disagree with all the responses...i think it's a great idea and i love buying people excursions if they have a honeymoon registry. I would rather buy an excursion than a crockpot that i know they won't use!!

maratea

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:6fe96078-db41-4247-8520-3df84e6b5798Post:84ac287a-8dec-4fa2-a768-c0a5599a4685">Re: Honeymoon Registry??</a>:
[QUOTE]i disagree with all the responses...i think it's a great idea and i love buying people excursions if they have a honeymoon registry. I would rather buy an excursion than a crockpot that i know they won't use!!
Posted by amyn1919[/QUOTE]

The only problem with this is that the OP said they had a $0 budget for the HM. Sure you can buy things like excursions or dinners, but they also have to pay to get there (plane, car, whatever), they need to pay for a hotel and other miscellaneous expenses. So if they can't even afford to get to the destination, a HM registry won't matter. Also, you still have to pay for the HM upfront, so getting a HM registry where people can pay toward the actual cost of the HM won't work. Like, if you have to have all the money paid 4 weeks before arrival (and that's 2 days after the wedding) and someone wants to give you money a week before the wedding, it won't work out. Logistically, if you can't afford to actually go on a HM and pay upfront, you shouldn't really be getting a HM registry.

megandjay

Plan a honeymoon you can afford, even if you decide to do a honeymoon registry most of your guests will not purchase anything until the week or day before your wedding- or even after your wedding. Therefore you will not be able to plan on how much you will get.

Consider that some guests will believe they are actually buying you things (like a massage, dinner, etc) and so HM is dishonest if the funds are not used for what they were purchased.

Some guests will not want to (or not be internet savvy) to use a HM online registry and therefore a traditional registry may be in your best interest, see the Registering and Gifts board for ideas about what you can upgrade or register for.

Some guests may see HM as a greedy ploy for cash, so you may be offending people.

Skip the hidden fees and just don't register, your guests are not stupid- they know that money is a nice gift.

For more responses see the dozens of posts on this subject here and on the Registering and Gifts board.

reese511

oh here we go again.....
OP - there is a post called Honey Fund on the 2nd page of this board.  check it out for HMR opinons.  there are plenty of em to go around!

golden1215

OP- you may not NEED things for your home but you can always make a nice, small upgrade registry.  I'm sure everything in your home is not totally top of the line... if it were you'd probably be rich and then your HM fund wouldnt be $0.... so ask for a few really high end things that you'll use and then people will get the hint to give cash for the rest.

jemmini6

I'm one of the few people on here who actually like HM Registries, but I think we can all agree with the fact that it's annoying when there's a post about them multiple times a day. 

Please scroll down and look to see if something has been posted about already.  It has.  MANY times.  You will find all of the responses you need from the other 10000000000 posts made on this topic.

laurendoster

I am also doing a honeymoon registry, but there are a few things you need to be aware of:

1 - Many funds charge transaction fees.  Use Honeyfund.com to avoid paying higher fees.

2 - You receive cash as people donate it.  Oftentimes airplane tickets, cruises, etc must be purchased months in advance.  If you don't have the money upfront to pay for this, it may not be a great idea (or you will have to plan last minute)

3 - I would never expect a HM registry to fund my entire trip.  If you don't have a budget for the HM, you better start with a realistic registry (ie go to NYC instead of Bora Bora).

Also keep in mind that once the first guest donates to the registry, you must go on said trip.  From donations on my registry, I will take pictures of my FI and I at the activity they paid for - makes it more personal!

Good luck!

cruise160

Oooooook, well then. Thanks for your "responses and or assumptions." After all, it was just a question. You will have to excuse me...I am new to the boards, so the 100000 previous inquiries about this topic, have not been read by me.

reese511

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:6fe96078-db41-4247-8520-3df84e6b5798Post:45e71eae-373e-4c90-a620-fdcd510dadd8">Re: Honeymoon Registry??</a>:
[QUOTE]Oooooook, well then. Thanks for your "responses and or assumptions." After all, it was just a question. You will have to excuse me...I am new to the boards, so the 100000 previous inquiries about this topic, have not been read by me.
Posted by cruise160[/QUOTE]

totally understandable!  so if you scroll all the way to the bottom of this (Honeymoon) board - just type the word "registry" into the search function.  OR, go to the Registry & GIfts board and type in "honeymoon".  you'll get PLENTY of posts to read. 
i personally think HMR are awesome and no different than any other registry.  but there are a lot of knotties who feel the opposite.  GL!

Snippylynn

I knew it had been quiet about these things for a long time.

GoBucksOH

Has anyone registered through a travel agancy for the honeymoon? MY fiance and I are an already established couple so the normal registry items really dont interest us (i.e things for a home). But we are pretty much at $0 budget for the honeymoon.
Posted by cruise160

So in this economy, you think its OK to expect your guests to reach into their pockets and pay for YOUR honeymoon??? If you can't afford it, then guess what....dont go.

Miss GS

I think its a great idea. When I told my fiance he was so excited! I dont think your obligating anyone, gifts on your typical registry cost money too, so why not have the funds applied towards something you really want. I dont think its tacky at all. Im sure your family and friends will be estatic to know they are contributing to an important part of your lives together, I say go for it!! And by the way, this is the first post Ive seen on this too

strlzfan11

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:6fe96078-db41-4247-8520-3df84e6b5798Post:874c2f71-317b-4e5d-8b1d-f778f5d9a001">Re: Honeymoon Registry??</a>:
[QUOTE]I think its a great idea. When I told my fiance he was so excited! I dont think your obligating anyone, gifts on your typical registry cost money too, so why not have the funds applied towards something you really want. I dont think its tacky at all. Im sure your family and friends will be estatic to know they are contributing to an important part of your lives together, I say go for it!! And by the way, this is the first post Ive seen on this too :)
Posted by Miss GS[/QUOTE]

It's probably the first post you've seen because you joined a week ago and have two posts.  All you have to do is scroll through the first couple pages of any given forum to see if there are any posts discussing the topic in which you have an interest.  There's usually a post about honeymoon registries around once a week or every two weeks.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]Oooooook, well then. Thanks for your "responses and or assumptions." After all, it was just a question. You will have to excuse me...I am new to the boards, so the 100000 previous inquiries about this topic, have not been read by me.
Posted by cruise160[/QUOTE]

Are you also new to the internet? Because last I checked, "search" was a pretty basic fucntion.

megandjay

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[QUOTE]I think its a great idea. When I told my fiance he was so excited! I dont think your obligating anyone, gifts on your typical registry cost money too, so why not have the funds applied towards something you really want. I dont think its tacky at all. <strong>Im sure your family and friends will be estatic to know they are contributing to an important part of your lives together,</strong>I say go for it!! And by the way, this is the first post Ive seen on this too :)
Posted by Miss GS[/QUOTE]

Really? How are you so sure? Do you know her family and friends? I don't. Maybe they will and maybe they won't. They might be appalled and consider it very tacky.

Miss GS

Wow, some people have too much time on their hands. If they think its tacky, theyre not obligated to purchase anything, we all have choices, thats the beauty of it

GoBucksOH

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[QUOTE]<strong>Wow, some people have too much time on their hands</strong>. If they think its tacky, theyre not obligated to purchase anything, we all have choices, thats the beauty of it :)
Posted by Miss GS[/QUOTE]

Not sure where this comment comes into play. She asked for opinions, and she got them. I am pretty sure that's the purpose of this board.

hz80408

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:6fe96078-db41-4247-8520-3df84e6b5798Post:84ac287a-8dec-4fa2-a768-c0a5599a4685">Re: Honeymoon Registry??</a>:
[QUOTE]i disagree with all the responses...i think it's a great idea and i love buying people excursions if they have a honeymoon registry.<strong> I would rather buy an excursion than a crockpot that i know they won't use!!
</strong>Posted by amyn1919[/QUOTE]

If they wouldn't use it or didn't want it, then they wouldn't register for it.

cathyandjustyn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:6fe96078-db41-4247-8520-3df84e6b5798Post:b639e3a8-b825-4976-8c0e-2052ec099c65">Re: Honeymoon Registry??</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon Registry?? : Are you also new to the internet? Because last I checked, "search" was a pretty basic fucntion.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

My response isn't to the OP, but to the quote above and all who followed suit throughout the responses....

Haven't any of you heard of manners? Does anyone remember being told in school that there is no such thing as a stupid question? Were all of you just having a bad day and decided to take it out on this poor woman? I can't believe how rude some of you can be and it makes some feel apprehensive to post their opinions because of you bullies! Have some common decency and keep your rudeness to yourselves!

emilyinchile

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:6fe96078-db41-4247-8520-3df84e6b5798Post:307ce028-997b-4c8b-8fc5-246b765c4aaf">Re: Honeymoon Registry??</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon Registry?? : My response isn't to the OP, but to the quote above and all who followed suit throughout the responses.... <strong>Haven't any of you heard of manners?</strong> Does anyone remember being told in school that there is no such thing as a stupid question? Were all of you just having a bad day and decided to take it out on this poor woman? I can't believe how rude some of you can be and it makes some feel apprehensive to post their opinions because of you bullies! Have some common decency and keep your rudeness to yourselves!
Posted by cathyandjustyn[/QUOTE]

Yes I have. And netiquette, which is what we call the manners of the internet, says it's polite to take a quick look through a forum to see if your question has already been asked and answered before posting it.

FutureDondada

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[QUOTE]God, I hate whoever invented honeymoon registries. They are awful. <strong>They charge fees.</strong> They are dishonest. But ZOMG! you can buy me a fancy dinner! That sounds awesome! But it doesn't. If you want cash, then don't register for a lot and let if spread via word of mouth that you want money for a honeymoon/house/whatever. Don't sign up for a website that charges fees and says that, 'You are buying them snorkeling lessons!" when in reality, they get a check for $100 bucks that they can spend on whatever they want.Ugh...
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

Of course they charge fees. When your guests buy off store registries do you give them a tax exempt form so they arent paying those "fees". If they can pay tax at a store they can pay fees for the honeymoon.

I am also one who loves the idea of a honeymoon registry. But I also agree that if you can't afford it, you shouldnt be including it as a registry. FI and I can fully afford ours, however if people want to help us pay for it, then awesome! That'll give us more $$ to put toward renovating our house. If they don't want to, thats fine too. We have a small store registry as we've been in our house over a yr and don't need much. So when the list runs dry, theres a good chance we'll get $$...which will also go toward the honeymoon.

wiwicaty

Hi OP, we had originally set up a registry via the sandals website. Then I became aware that they charge a fee for each transaction so I deleted it and now I'm thinking of recurring to Liberty travel in NYC for our US guests and simple word of mouth for our European guests. Otherwise, I think Honeyfund is pretty popular and doesn't charge fees. You should check it out. See if you can set up "trip contributions" and not only activities-excusions, if your budget is at $0.

(BTW - how funny that you ask a simple question and some people have nothing to say but will sneak in their negative opinions about your choice... meh... whoever asked their blasted opinions? right?!)

GL

vhalbeck

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[QUOTE]God, I hate whoever invented honeymoon registries. They are awful. They charge fees. They are dishonest. But ZOMG! you can buy me a fancy dinner! That sounds awesome! But it doesn't. If you want cash, then don't register for a lot and let if spread via word of mouth that you want money for a honeymoon/house/whatever. Don't sign up for a website that charges fees and says that, 'You are buying them snorkeling lessons!" when in reality, they get a check for $100 bucks that they can spend on whatever they want.Ugh...
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

I know there a hundred posts on this, but I really have to respond! Not all honeymoon funds are created equal! HONEYFUND DOES NOT CHARGE! You just need to do your research.

The only reason people think it's tacky is because it's not traditional.  How is it ok that we buy knife sets, and pans, and plates for people to stock their houses with when really they want that stuff because they can't buy it themselves. It's really no different than a honemoon registry.  Furthermore, if it weren't traditional to give money at the reception people would be saying the same thing.    It's just so hypcritical.

I would say, make sure to have a small registry for people who want to get something more traditional.  I've had several friends have honeyfunds and it was great to get their thank you note telling us how great their dinner in Rome was- that's a memory they'll always keep and that matters.

megandjay

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:6fe96078-db41-4247-8520-3df84e6b5798Post:307ce028-997b-4c8b-8fc5-246b765c4aaf">Re: Honeymoon Registry??</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon Registry?? : My response isn't to the OP, but to the quote above and all who followed suit throughout the responses.... Haven't any of you heard of manners? Does anyone remember being told in school that there is no such thing as a stupid question? Were all of you just having a bad day and decided to take it out on this poor woman? <strong>I can't believe how rude some of you can be and it makes some feel apprehensive to post their opinions because of you bullies! </strong>Have some common decency and keep your rudeness to yourselves!
Posted by cathyandjustyn[/QUOTE]

Really? I think you are the only one doing any name-calling here.

The responses were directed towards the topic of the question. Some regular posters might get frustrated because this topic comes up at least once a week, if not more often on this board and Registry and Gifts. New posters could easily read back one page and see the responses, or use the search function.

emilyinchile

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:6fe96078-db41-4247-8520-3df84e6b5798Post:540667cd-d283-425f-a589-90e8adf54ee9">Re: Honeymoon Registry??</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi OP, we had originally set up a registry via the sandals website. Then I became aware that they charge a fee for each transaction so I deleted it and now I'm thinking of recurring to Liberty travel in NYC for our US guests and simple word of mouth for our European guests. Otherwise, I think Honeyfund is pretty popular and doesn't charge fees. You should check it out. See if you can set up "trip contributions" and not only activities-excusions, if your budget is at $0. (BTW - how funny that you ask a simple question and some people have nothing to say but will sneak in their negative opinions about your choice... <strong>meh... whoever asked their blasted opinions? right?!</strong>) GL
Posted by wiwicaty[/QUOTE]

OP asked the opinions of everyone on the internet when she posted a question on, ya know, the internet.

wiwicaty

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:6fe96078-db41-4247-8520-3df84e6b5798Post:7b76fe3d-db8d-46bc-872a-79d4b0854ff1">Re: Honeymoon Registry??</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon Registry?? : OP asked the opinions of everyone on the internet when she posted a question on, ya know, the internet.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

<div>Nope, my dear smarta*s, she asked a very specific question and I'm pretty sure opinions on HM registries were not mentioned. I wonder if you're that arrogant with people in real life or if you're only able to take it out on, ya know, the internet. </div>