I am kinda sad because I know my parents are not excited about my upcoming union with my FB. He and I have been together 3.5 years and by the time we are married 4.5 years. I have never been happier and he is my best friend.
They however are not so excited. Today I flew home and my mom picked me up at the airport, she was annoyed that I looked at my ring in the car and that I aparently had ideas and was planning things for the wedding.
When she was snarky and commented how was she supposed to know this stuff about where I wanted the wedding and other deatials, I reminded her that we talked about it together last fall and that she knows I have been thinking about this since I was 6.
Have any of you dealt with less than happy parents about your future life with your husband to be? If so how does a bride deal with this.
Note: I am an only child as well
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I doubt your mom isn't happy for you, she prob just needs time to get used to it. Maybe start slowly with her. Talk about a budget (she may have worries about affording the wedding you wanted when you were 6) and just about both of your visions and slowly ease into planning. She will warm up to it and be an excited mother of the bride!
Don't worry!
My fiance did not ask for my parents "permission". Originally he was going to ask for their blessing but after having a heart to heart with them last year and them pretty much stating they didn't like him, that idea changed. My fiance was only going to ask them because I wanted it but he always told me that the only answer that truly mattered was mine.
At this point I don't expect any contribution from them. My parents paid for their wedding and it is looking like I will be paying for mine. They didn't pay for my college education and I have been paying my own bills since I was 18. One my best friends is gettting married this June and I'm one of her BM, she reminded me last night that she wonders how my parents will feel knowing they aren't hosting their only child's wedding.
Also I don't want the same wedding that I wanted at 6, it was just in reference that that is how long girls (such as myself) dream of their wedding day and she knows this. When I was 16 she asked me what I wanted for my wedding one day because we were watching a wedding show together.
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[QUOTE]Originally he was going to ask for their blessing but after having a heart to heart with them last year and them pretty much stating they didn't like him, that idea changed.
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</div><div>I was afraid you were going to say that. There's no easy 'fix' for that, unfortunately. It may just require a sit-down with them since they're going to have to accept that this is your choice. They may be uneasy if they feel like you haven't listened to their reasons, but other than that, I would say that they're just going to have to suck it up. A girl needs her mom to talk to about wedding stuff, and it's so disheartening when mom won't engage in the conversation. I know how much that hurts - my parents weren't very supportive at first (mostly because of money) and it sucked. I didn't want to talk to my mom about the wedding at all. Eventually they came around, but it wasn't fun in the meantime. </div><div>
</div><div>Is there anyone else in your family you can talk to about wedding stuff? An aunt, cousin, etc.? It may help to shift those conversations to another female family member until your mom comes around and realises that it's time to put the differences in opinion aside. GL girl :)</div>
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I guess just talk to your mom and see the real reason behind he attitude and work on fixing it. If you don't want to do that, then pretend she doesn't have an attitude and keep talking to her about it anyways and her tude will eventually go away.
Good luck!
Money well they act like they have given me a lot since college, which they have helped sum but majority is on student loans that I am paying back.
Luckily FI parents are well off and very understanding and supporting of the issue, they want to help but I also don't want to depend on them ya know. Plus my parents are tradiational and will complain that it is the bride's side that pays for wedding (even if that means me alone).
As for other family. I have two aunts that I can talk to, my mom's sisters, they have no children of their own and are very supportive of this marriage especially one. Though I know with the one especially my mom and her never get along ever! IT will only cause more drama with my mom to speak to them about plans and not her. yes my mom is a little nuts.
For now I think best to just plan on keeping my mouth shut and start my wedding fund piggy bank till they let this settle in their minds and come around some. I know my mom would be upset if her name wasn't on there for hosting it, I think just like my college funds, they wouldn't correct anyone who says they paid for it (yes they did this are my recent graduation many times in front of me when people said well no more paypments for you, I wanted to say what payments?!)
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