Hi! I am half filipina (FI is not) and would like to incorporate my heritage by doing the traditional filipino ceremony (coins, veil, cord). Not doing the unity candle because our ceremony is outside and the candle might not work so well outside, so we're just going to do a sand ceremony instead.
I know there are traditionally coin, veil, and cord sponsors. Can we just have our BM's and GM's double duty and be the coin, veil, and cord sponsors? One of my friends did this for her ceremony so I was wondering if this is ok? I'd rather not have to find more people to do these things when our WP can do it...
Also, I read that at least some of sponsors typically are the godparents, that the sponsors typically help with the cost of the wedding, and are listed on the invitations? I don't know where my godparents are (parents lost touch with them). Haven't seen them since I was very young. FI and I are both paying for our wedding ourselves and I don't feel comfortable with anyone else contributing (other than our own parents but they haven't offered so it's just FI and I). As such, I don't feel comfortable listing anyone else as hosts on the invitation other than myself and FI so I don't want the traditional sponsors in that sense.
Help! I'm so confused with this! Sorry I rambled a little bit. Thanks in advance for the help!
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Re: Filipino ceremony - sponsors
No wonder you're so confused! You're talking about a lot of different things
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First of all, the first set of sponsors you are talking about when you mentioned godparents, these are called the "Primary Sponsors". You're right, traditionally in the Philippines, they help to pay for the wedding. This was during the time though where weddings were a huge neighborhood affair where many people in the village would contribute to the wedding. Here though, they normally have no huge role in the wedding besides to walk as part of the entourage. Being a sponsor or "Ninong/Ninang"is really just an honor to whoever you choose... it also encourages them to give you a good wedding present
Now the other set of sponsors you spoke about (candle/veil/cord/coin), these are, along with your bridesmaid/groomsmen/etc, the "Secondary Sponsors". You can definitely have your bm/gm do some double duty in this role. A lot of weddings even have the bm/gm do the readings or what not.
Hope that helps and happy planning!
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As far as the primary sponsors go, you don't have to have them. My cousin got married this past summer and only had the coin, veil, and cord sponsors.
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As for my primary sponsors, a couple of them are my baptismal godparents, a couple of them are not. I am not listing them on the invitation as that seems inappropriate. They are not contributing to the wedding itself, so it doesn't make sense to list them as host. But again, on the program, they will be listed as primary sponsors. To me, they are the godparents of the ceremony and of my married life. So...you could always ask some important people in your life to act as primary sponsors without considering them 'hosts' in the traditional sense -- just letting them take on the more symbolic role of advisors/mentors/supporters.
This is probably too late to help. Just saw it, so thought I'd responsd anyway.
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